Okay I am totally being something that I am not and my friends have found out and still love me but I am so insecure now and I don't want to lose them cause I am totally spacing but I don't know what the problem is so HELLP!!!
sundancer
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try stripping off all the Armor you wear to protect the delicate flower called your Spirit.Sometimes the pressure of Peer Group recognition throws a individual into living a duel exsistence all for the sake of feeling accepted.First of all, you MUST accept yourself,and know that there is only one of you, Unique, Beautiful, Full of Hope and Love.Because you cannot see yourself,and cannot hear yourself,is making you seek recognition outside your Safety Net...Beware! you are in Dangerous Territory...you are vulnerable and you ned to pull yourself back into familiar territory...You need to know that before others can love you, you have love yourself first. People that exibit this energy are saught after in all segments of our Society, simply because they want to feel as good as this person who 'Glows'with the Power of Self-Respect and Confidence of knowing Who He/She is.So, before you commit to the whims of others,give yourself a break and find yourself.Start writing down your thoughts..Remember your past and write about it...in there you will find the key to open the cage you alone put yourself in...So its up to you to get your self out!!...and you will!! Have Faith in YOU!
nwtobe
You're insecure because you don't like the person you really are. When you became something you're not, it gave you a reason in your head for people to like you. When they found out the truth about you, you were confused about why they would still care (because you likely don't see yourself as someone worthy of love). Try to see what they see. Ask them to help you see it if you have difficulty finding the reasons you deserve to be cared for.
Integrity is of the utmost importance in a relationship - any relationship. Don't betray the love your friends have freely given you by continuing to be deceitful.
HappyCat
Well...then they are your true friends if they love you no matter what. That is what true friendship is all about. If you were to lose your friends, it would've happened by now.
If you are trying to be something you are not then evidentally that is really the person that you wish to become. Practice makes perfect.That is just a way of saying"Hey I am unhappy I want to change, this is the person that I want to be"
No point in flipping out over it. We make mistakes. Let it go. Become the person that you wish to become. Allow that nature to soak in naturally. :) It's called changing the things you don't like.
Nico
My advice to you would be to stop being something that you are not and just accept the person you are. Be true to yourself. If your friends are you true friends they will continue to love and accept you as you are. Don't worry about what other people think. Have some confidence in yourself. Only you can live your life and even though you didn't specify on your problem, you deserve to be happy no matter what.
legolas072
A. Get off the computer
b. get some new friends because i would have dumped your ***
c. same thing as b, just for the fact you need to be on the computer less.