How was it after coming home. Were you frustrated, how did you manage. What were your feelings toward your husband. Do you have any tips that you have you know are not in books. What were the thoughts going through this journey.
Thanks
debberu
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My biggest tip would be to have patience w/yourself and your baby. I had post partum depression and felt overwhelmed and alone and inept. Time will make it better. I also remember feeling overwhelmed. I didn't know where to start. If you have a husband/partner who is involved, you are lucky. My husband was the best and for the 1st week, got up so I could heal and get my rest. He did this w. both of our kids.
I also felt a sense of, what to call it, importance and with that some trepidation. I was now responsible for a tiny life. I didn't want to screw him up.(probably some PPD w. those feelings)
It sounds corny but I prayed to God for wisdom and patience in dealing w. my child(ren). I feel that patience is one thing i do have and do well. With prayers and support, this can be done!
One more thing...more for new moms: Mother hood is NOt like what you see on TV and the soap operas....TV never shows the real/whole picture..
F_T_W !
I really didn't want to go home but, I knew I had to because if I didn't they house probably would have blew up, # other kids + husband = catastrophe!!!!!! So, I was happy with all pregnancies and the post par tum experiences. But, then after a while like right now my baby is 4 months old and sometime I don't want to hold her or be by her. But,I don't hate her I just get tired cuz I have a teenager, a girl! Then I have a son P.D.D. pervasive developmental disorder which falls into the spectrum of autism, and I have a 9 year old who is hanging with the mean girls so I have been feeling over whelmed but it will pass. My thoughts towards my husband?????? Yeah I want to kill him cuz he projects too much. So I like really don't even want his help. I can leave and go somewhere and he will watch the baby and when I come back he will tell me I had too many clothes on her or that it was too cold or hot for her or that she was fussy and that he thinks she's sick or teething or something that either not wrong with her at all. But, the best advise I can give is to always be patient and understanding towards yourself first and then with everyone else.This I find works wonders in every and any situation.
poohtiggeroo2003
I got severe postpartum depression and I take lexapro now.I have two boys 11yrs and 9yrs.I had a new baby on 8-16-05 and it is like starting all over again and I have gained alot of weight from being pregnant ,so I am not happy with the way I look right now and the baby is 8 1/2 months already.I have cried alot and have been an emotional basketcase.I love my baby dearly and I enjoy my time with him,but I don't have anytime for myself anymore,I have to wait for someone to come over,so I can take just a shower.And I was always trying to get the housework and laundry done and I learned to do one thing at a time and not everything has to me done at once and take time for me.
Annie
With my first baby, I was happy to be home, but extremely tired. I wanted rest, but everyone was so excited to see the baby that they kept calling and coming over and visiting with me that I didn't get much rest. I wanted desperately to have my bathroom cleaned and dishes done, but I couldn't keep on top of it. My husband didn't take much time off work-- just a day, so it was rough, to be alone, unimaginably tired, and overwhelmed.
With my second child, I learned to shut off the phone any time I wanted to get some sleep... and I didn't answer the door unless I really felt like I could handle company. My sister came and help out (she stayed at our house): really help, with cleaning and my older son. I was happy to be home, but found that after a couple of days, I wanted my house to myself and my immediate family. So, next time I will do things different yet again.
I didn't have any problems with postpartum depression, but each time, for the first few days, I felt very overwhelmed and wondered how I could deal with all the new demands that kept piling. Sometimes, even though I was tired, I couldn't sleep at night because I was so worried that as soon as I did drift off the baby would wake. So, after each birth, I've had to teach myself to relax and just get some sleep!
On the whole, it's an exciting, wonderful experience. It's so amazing how the hard times can make us stronger. It's amazing how much a little bundle can change life.
nikkibee51570
When I came home, everything was fine. My mother and my husband were there helping me out. My mother stayed with us for a couple of weeks. After she left, I felt alone and deserted. My in-laws were acting and still are acting an ***. Thank God for my husband. Of course I cried. Being a first time mother has it toll. Sometimes I feel stupid because I don't know whats going on. I ask questions left and right. If I don't know something, I ask my mother, my best friend or my nana in NY. I just take it one day at a time and I marvel at the new life. He is getting bigger and longer. I wouldn't change it for a thing. I still go through brain freezes. Its hilarious sometimes, sometimes its sad. I recently lost my cell phone. I think I threw it away. That's due to a lack of sleep. Ah the joys of motherhood