how can u tell your parents?
that the one you fall in love with and want to marry HER, has a child from HER previous illegitimate relationship..
that the one you fall in love with and want to marry HER, has a child from HER previous illegitimate relationship..
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That's rough. DOn't tell them about the kid. MAybe just introduce your lady and then after they get to know her, they will be more accepting
hpadbanabhan
I do not understand your question. It is YOU that is in love with her and want to marry. What have your parents got to do with it? Are they going to support you financially or are you going to ask them to take care of this child? If not, than be a man. It is YOU that has to make this choice. If you are alright with it just go ahead. But be sure that it will not become an issue later on. The child is innocent and should not have to suffer in any case.
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if i'm understanding this right...you fell in love with a woman that has a child from a previous oopsie...right? i think if you're willing to take on that kind of responsibility and love not just the mother but the child also then i don't see what business it is of your parents. you're over 18, right? i know they're your parents and you care what they think but this is ultimately between you and your soon-to-be new family. it may shock and confuse and infuriate your parents but they'll come around. they'll have a new grandbaby. and if you're committed to raising this beautiful child then they should be happy you've found someone. right? just be rational and have all your ducks in a row before you go to them. they'll come around. they love you and eventually they will love HER and HER child. good luck!
jeffri345
it all depends on how close you are with your parents(unfortunately not everyone is close enough) and how influencial are they in your decision making. I wouldnt purely base my decision on parents but on me, thats yourself in this case. How psychologically are you ready, are you going to spend on the child or will the girl's commitment be heavily affected by the child. are you ready to stay with the child and would you act like a father if necessary, what happened to the father? so many questions you need answered before telling off parents. This however shouldnt stop you from discussing the issue with your parents but you decide, not them!
Goodluck
Warrior
If you are in love with this woman, and you accept her child as your very own. Then I expect that you will defend this woman with all that you are.
You will have to be very clear about your intentions of marriage, clear about your acceptance and forgiveness of the past, and clear about your expectations of the way that they treat her.
These things will be difficult I know; but it's what you must deal with as she is your choice to marry not theirs.
Is the child a girl or a boy?
Many blessings.