Should I apologize to my mother-in-law or should I expect one?
She offered to babysit three days a week for me to help me get more things done to make things a little easier on me,however,she got irritated at me because she thought that perhaps I was not actually accomplishing anything,but instead wasting this time.I feel like this "help" came with a price tag now and we did argue about it. She was very upset that I decided to take the kids with me rather than leave them after our fight, but how could I leave them...furthermore, I am unsure of how we left things. We have interacted since this incident, but I still feel hurt and betrayed.I really can't believe that she thought I was that selfish as to "dump" my kids off and go have fun....and she mentioned how there are some people that have four kids and get along just fine with no help. I took that to be an insult? I love her, but I am so hurt and embarrassed! I am now wondering what the other family members think too...
Jess2006-06-12T23:46:08Z
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I would be totally offended.You should be able to have some time for yourself , no matter how busy or how many kids you have in order to keep yourself sane and relaxed.Doing something for yourself for a little while is accomplishing something! Tell her your point of view on the situation but dont dwell on it too long.Shes your mother in law, these things happen and will probably occur mulitple times through out your life.My opinion is a bit biased because from what I've witnessed in my family , the grandparents want the grandkids to be with them all the time anyway, they arent actually being "dumped" on them. Good luck
It would not hurt to apologize, even though you really have not done any thing wrong. Be the bigger person things will turn out alright, that's your mother-in law and she loves you and the kids please don't take those kids from her that would probably crush her. She is just older and most of the time older people think a whole lot different than we do. Always remember that she is your husbands mother and if it were not for her there would be no him.Respect her and she will respect you. Be happy family is an important part of your children's life.
Misunderstandings & Misconceptions should be cleared as soon as they are discovered. Instead of apology , just take the initiative of talking to her face to face & clarifying your stand. Emphasise clearly her need for a genuine work reason & appreciate the fact that you completely rely on her & that she's ready to help . Things will improve.
You should not get upset with her, she has a right to ask you what your doing...she's babysitting for you for free, I assume. Also, she has a lot of knoldage and she can help you with things cause she know's better. Try getting along and see how things work out. Yes, you need to apologize, and get over this, the faster the better