My son got a young lady pregnant. My grand baby is now 3, and due to her being abusive,?
I have called DHS on her several times. She lives with the baby out of state, but will return home soon. Now, she will not allow me to speak with my grandchild, and my son will not talk to me at all. The baby loves me, and I her, but I don't know how to get in contact with my grandbaby. My question is this, what rights (visitation, or otherwise) do I have, since they were never married?I love my grandchild, and want to be a part of her life.
Anonymous2006-07-13T12:56:00Z
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Check your state for Grandparent rights. Unfortunately some states don't have it. ie Indiana. Call an attorney!!
You really have no rights where your grandchild is concerned. The parents have the right to allow the child to associate with whom they choose -- or not. Since you've got an animosity with the mother, this won't go anywhere. And was there actually abuse found? If not, you have no case. If you made it up - shame on you. Since your son is also not speaking with you, as well, you really don't have any options. Your son, as the legal father, could allow you access -- but if he won't do it either, my guess is that there's more going on. Grandparents usually have good relationships with their own children, and so have automatic access to their grandchildren. When their own children say otherwise -- that's a sure sign something serious has gone down. Kids don't just cut off their parents for no reason if there has been a decent relationship in place.
I know I'd be brokenhearted if I couldn't see my grandchildren. You must be, too. You could file a petition in Family Court for grandparent visitation. Locally the judge generally gives grandparents 1-2 weekends a month. A day long visit, maybe an overnight. It may be a long, drawn out battle. A relationship with her is important, but it sounds like you'll be driving a bigger wedge between you and your son. Is he still with her? Doesn't he believe she's abusive to the child? God bless!
Unfortunatly this goes on far too much now adays. Its sounds pretty difunctional all the way around. I dont think you have very many rights to your grandchild because they were never married. But all I can tell you is to research and hopefully you will figure it out if not for you, mostly your grand daughter. She is the victem in this whole thing and the sad thing is, she never asked to be.
I´m very sorry to tell you this, the parents have all the rights of the baby!, you are a grandparent, not the parent!
If you love that much your grandchild, TRY very hard to UNDERSTAND the point of view of your son and her wife, otherwise you´ll have to be away from your grandson. Sad, very sad thing isn´t it!