My husband chats on Porn forums and views on line porn...?
How can I explain that this hurts me? I have talked to him about it twice and thought we had an understanding. I love him very much but this is putting a wedge in our relationship. We are very active sexually and have never put him off or had a "headache". I do not want to view porn with my husband, so please don't suggest that......
His computer was password protected but he did (without saying anything) take off the password. This made me feel better.
I have to travel for work and I hate leaving knowing he will be chatting in a porn forum and viewing porn on line while I am gone.
Shalom Yerushalayim2006-07-23T18:29:15Z
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This is the same thing as cheating. Tell him it's porn or you. And mean it. Been there. Did it. Porn went away.
well, i am sorry for your problem, it is sad if you have a good marriage, and a good relationship with your husband,
I do not know your husband, or his feelings however, i know that porn, and they way you say his interest is, is addictive, and it doesnt just vanish, or at least for a long time,
The bad news in my opinion is before your husband had "THE PORN" and internet access, he had you, Now he has both, So in a way, your husband has a "MISTRESS" and probably does not think he is doing any wrong to you,,
Since you do not want to join him in watching and i do understand, however, he is offering you "TRUTH" big deal right? i do not suggest you throw away your choices, but maybe entertain the thought that sometimes you do join him "a little" and then he wont find a need to lie to you.....
i hope that you resolve your problem, i think that you both should have counseling...an the first thought that comes to mind is he may say "what" You are making a big deal about nothing, BUT YOU ARE NOT,, do not ignore this, or dismiss this, because when your husband is involved in the porn and computer entertainment, he is not thinking of you, that is my argument for you.. he is thinking and getting excited about other females, and like it or not they are real live people, and slowly seducing him, and exciting him,,into probably even more,,, little steps turn into big steps..
IF YOU VALUE YOUR MARRIAGE, AND YOUR RELATIONSHIP,, YOU MUST GET A HANDLE ON IT NOW, AS IT SEEEMS TO HAVE A HANDLE ON HIM
iF YOU ARE NOT COMMITED TO GOD (TOGETHER) there are so many distractions in life anyway, and this is one of the biggest and most serious.
The porn by itself isn't the thing to worry about. Many married men check out internet porn and have wonderful relationships. But chatting in internet porn rooms is a lot more unusual. I'm happily married and I look at adult material on the web. My wife knows and doesn't mind. But I would never consider chatting with other women, especially not in a porn chat room. That goes over the line. If I ever did that, my wife would have every reason to kick my *** goodbye. And if she ever did it, I'd do the same.
Talking in porn chat rooms is like having late night phone chats with strange women. And that's not cool.
Just one man's opinion. I hope everything works out for the best for you. Good luck.
You can do a lot of different things. First, try to figure out why it's occuring now. Is he unhappy sexually? Just because you have an active sex life, he might be missing something that he is getting from porn. Why do you get so upset that he is looking at porn? Are you jealous of the women? Do you feel betrayed? Make him try to understand your feelings. Then you can always play the revenge card, and ask him how he would react if you looked at porn or talked to men in chat forums.
I don't think looking at porn is wrong, but talking to women in forums is. You have to make him understand that it hurts you, but you have to figure out why it does, and what you both can do to fix it.