In general, are long distance relationships worth it?

I really like a guy who lives 300 miles away from me.

For those of you who have done the long distance thing, what are the pros and cons?

nat042006-08-27T18:19:19Z

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they are totally worth it! My fiance stayed 5 months away from me, before he moved down to where i was.

Cons:
-no physcial contact...sometimes all i wanted was a hug
-seeing other couples and missing him more
-feeling lonley
-the nights are especially rough
-getting mad over small things that i wouldnt normally get mad over
-getting jealous, always wanting to know what he did, where he was and with whom (he's a darling and very patient, so he just told me without my asking)

Pros:
-i trust him so much, i know that these 5months he was totally commited to me
-i got to know him a lot better. We spent a lot of time talking on the phone, and i discovered a lot about him because sometimes i LISTENED....i didnt talk or anything, and we'd talk about so much stuff!
-im so secure in our love for one another. We sent each other cards, emailed everyday, txted everyday, talked on the phone and used chat (hehe, i KNOW he didnt have time for anyone else)
-we become more open with each other
-the day we did meet...it was so worth it :)

Just have faith. good luck

T2006-08-27T18:17:47Z

Only long distance relationship I have done are the 9 month cruises my husband went on the first 12 years of our marriage. Once he got stationed at home we had a heck of a time fingering out what we were about and how to get along with each other. We have been married 45 plus years. You can not really know a person if the relationship is long distance.

96.7 KCAL ROCKS!!!2006-08-27T18:31:57Z

Here is the deal, this is the answer you are looking for. Love has no distance. Physical contact does. I'm in love, and not just mushy mushy love, but true love with a girl that lives in NY i am in CA. The only way if it is worth it, is if you two are actually 100% into the relationship. Be true to each other. If my girl was only 300 miles i would have seen her like 20 times already. It would be best if both of you were like 18 or older but if your not, a long distance relationship will prove to both of you its not just lust and sex. It will actually test and see if you can really cope with each other. Never break trust or lie, or that could be the end of it or just make it hard. I'm going through it right now and its really hard sometimes, but if you hang in there, work things out, call alot, and just make sure both of you feel loved and not neglected it can work out. Go for it, and just make sure that you know who you are with online, is who they are online. :-)

Blue Limbo2006-08-27T18:23:41Z

Was it always long distance, or did you start out together?

Next week I'm moving in with my girlfriend of 3 years, we spent the past 15 months 200 miles apart.

Pros:
You learn to value every minute that you spend together and not take each other for granite.
You get the opportunity to write REAL old fashioned love letters to each other. (skip the e-mail)
Cons:
The lacking physical part of the relationship, but then this clearly lets you know if a relationship is sex driven or not.
If both people are going out, it can get stress full, unless there's 100% trust.

Tips: Switch to a cell phone company with free mobile to mobile minutes. Schedule a date every now and then, put everything else aside and just spend some quality time on the phone together.

It can work and it has been more than worth it for myself.

girlygirl82006-08-27T18:19:22Z

I have experienced a long distance relatonship before. The only reason you should be in one is if you are already planning to marry this person. If you aren't, why are you wasting time with them if you could be meeting somebody else who will be able to be there, phyiscally and mentally?

Pros: Sometimes absence makes the heart grow fonder. Not seeing him everyday could make you two closer when you do see each other.

Cons: Constant worries of cheating. Not being able to see them in person. When you're having a bad day, there's nobody to hug you when you need one. Worse, lacking someone being there physically could cause you to cheat on him. Not worth it.

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