What makes you think that our children don't learn social skills in homeschooling?

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It is wildy hilarious that someone answered your question by asking if you had ever met a homeschooled child.
Since you worded your question "our children" and since this is the homeschool section, it's pretty safe to assume you are a homeschool mom.
That was rich.
But I will answer her question and your question.
Have I ever met a homeschool child. I am in two groups that meet weekly. Combined, I see over 150 homeschool families representing close to 300 children.
Not cumulatively over my lifetime. this is EVERY week.
This does not include aquaintences in my community that belong to other groups. That bumps the number up to close to 200 and possibly 400 students.
Does that qualify me to speak on socialization with authority.
I think so.
Now, as for your question (lest I forget and get reported, lol) why do "people" think this about our kiddos?
They let one or possibly two situations that they may or may not have been directly involved in taint their view of the millions of homeschool children in this country. Usually it is a situation where someone says "I think, it must be, I heard once, a neighbor had a cousin that had a friend that lived by some people that knew someone that used to homeschool."
It is like saying the outbreak of violence in our schools in recent weeks is how it is for all schools, all the time in all states.
Not fair is it?
I do not put any stock in any opinions about homeschooling unless it comes from someone that has several years of experience and did not just pull their kids due to emotion. I do however use their stereotypical viewpoints as a springboard to speak the truth about the homeschool community. Not only here on this forum but every chance I get.
and to the better education? You should read my reply to an answer a few down. universities across the nation are finally realizing that homeschooling actually is a better preparation for college life than public schools and some are even beginning to not only actively recruit our kiddos, but are creating incentives like special hs scholarships, grants so on and so forth. I do yet have to meet a homeschool parent with a child in college right now that was not offered multiple scholarships.
It is really funny, but some ps parents and educators are beginning to complain that homeschool children have an "unfair advantage" over public school children when it comes to competing for college admissions.
Something to think about.
May have to ask for opinions on that....Show more

Of course kids don't need to be in a public school to be well socialized! But you don't have to be homeschooled to be a success or have good social skills either. Plenty of people who attend public schools go on to university and are successful! - Even straight out of high school. And plenty of homeschooled kids do too. Both homeschooled and schooled kids can get out in the real world. It's all a matter of choices. Of course there are losers and slackers who graduated from both. One person's, or families', success doesn't mean that everyone who does what they do is somehow better than the other group. People from both groups think the others are lacking skills, either academically or socially because they are insecure about their own choices. The angriest people who yell the loudest on either side of this "argument" of which is better are usually defensive for a reason. Educate your children proudly and don't worry about justifying your choices. I don't worry about justifying mine. Success speaks for itself. Defensiveness speaks volumes....Show more

Because people don't know how to think anymore and don't realize that what they're saying doesn't make sense. They only know how to assume. Too many think that homeschooled kids stay home all day and don't meet other people. Of course, because they're not thinking, they aren't realizing that interacting with people at home all day IS learning social skills.

There are numerous people in history who grew up in the boonies and who learned from their parents, involving interaction with their siblings, how to be with others. When they moved to towns or cities, they were fine. They didn't grow up in little rooms, never interacting with others. There was interaction with parents and siblings, all day, every day. Just like homeschoolers now. In fact, homeschooled children probably get more interaction at home--when they are home as many are out a lot of the time--than public schooled students get at school. In school, you're supposed to spend most of your day in your seat, listening to the teacher or working.

The additional problem is that those who harp on homeschoolers' social skills are focused on the skills necessary in a school setting. If a child is not going to school, why do they need skills that are exclusive to a school setting? Again, they're not thinking....Show more

I'm confused by your Additionals, as it sounds as though you son is in a school and not being home-schooled.

Yes, a lot of people hear "home schooling" and assume the child is trapped in the house all the time and never sees other children.

Funny, because, considering how horrible school (especially high school) culture is, and all the damage it does, I'd think it would be a plus for children to NOT be inculcated in it, but have more healthy relationships with others (something that's rare in schools, with their cliques and the God Popularity -- most people shed this culture as soon as they get out, anyway)....Show more

I don't really know much about home schooling, its not done much over here in Australia. My kids got to a private school.

From an outsider looking in, Id say Homeschooling has great advantages, the one on one would be awesome. I do alot of one on one with my kids after school too!

The only thing I would have to wonder about, is with home schooled kiddies................would they ever regret not having the lunch time circle of friends....( and by asking that I am not saying they have no social skills or no friends...I'm simply asking), what about other things too, u know the school disco's, graduation with classmates, and just other school day memories?

The description you have written sounds like you guys have great learning experiences.....!!...Show more