how do I tell my boyfriend I don't want him spending so much money on him? He needs to get a new starter on his car because his is going bad but he's more worried about spending money on me and he won't put that money aside to fix his starter. What do I do and how can I tell him to stop spending so much on me without hurting his feelings? He says he's only happy when he spends money on me
Zorro
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I wish you were my girlfriend!
Rissy
That is beyond sweet really, that he loves spending money on the woman he cares about. But you already know that in order for you two to have a future together he must start saving money and choosing to spend some on things that really need to be taking care of.
Bug him about the starter that he needs, "when are you going to get around to that car honey? don't you think it needs to be fixed, how about if we are out and it breaks down?" make him see that he must use his money on other things.
I agree that you should try to let him know in a nice way that gifts are great and you really appreciate the thought put behind them but you would much rather have him saving money on the things you two will need much more later on. Good Luck!
Anonymous
Buy him the starter! Or just take his money and invest it into the starter! In the long run if the two of you plan on staying together he will have to mature out of this money spending stage! Be firm! You will have to hurt his feelings in order to help him in the long run!
salar b
U take him out to a humble restarant give him flowers and spend the night in his arms at last say this night is more expensive than all the gifts in the world
Lisa D
I would tell him to stop buying you gifts and that you'd prefer the cash. Save up enough to get his starter fixed. He will appreciate it. By the way have you ever watched an episode of Judge Judy?