I'm in a new relationship and have trouble just letting go. I'm afraid of getting hurt and don't know how to cope with the perfectness of this new relationship. Instead of allowing myself to be happy i'm afraid it's too perfect.
akskdm3
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These types of things all take lots of time...could be that you arent ready to date yet. But what you need to do is realize that this new boy is not the ex! It's going to be hard but I was in the same boat with ya a few months ago! Take it slow, dont jump into anything, and if you are comfortable with the new boy, let him know that you are a little scared of getting hurt and let him know that you dont want to move too fast. Get a good support system from the girls and everything should turn out fine!
Da
That's happened to me too. Try not to worry a lot about getting hurt. Use your past like a manual.... you know what worked and what didn't work so use that to your advantage. Don't take it out on the other person, the fact that you still may have some mixed emotions due to your previous relationship as it's not fair to them. Keep an open mind and have fun in your current relationship. Live one day at a time... comfort is bound to be around the corner.
knbizz
well the first step is to realize that THIS person is NOT who you had in your LAST relationship... you have to understand that NO relationship will ever be perfect but you can still be happy. you have to make a decision not to make this person pay for the mistakes that the last person made. let the anxiety go, put the wall down, and put yourself out there... that's what a relationship is... it's putting yourself out there knowing that there is a chance that you may get hurt. sometimes you do, and sometimes you don't, but if you are going to be in a relationship, you have to give it your all. just inform your partner of your insecurities and tell them that you want to work on them because you appreciate this relationship...
hope this helps... good luck
C A M S ™
well.. if u feel that ur not ready yet to let go of ur past, then ur not ready to have a new relationship. let ur heart and securities heal. it will never work to ur future relationships if ur still clinging to ur past. It's unfair to hold on to ur past while ur in a new relationship.
love
really get to know a person before you get into a relationship.