Do single women have all the love in thier life that they want?
Being recently single and spinning my tires with online Dating, I have drawn the conclusion that
" single women have all the love in thier life that they want?".
My perspective is that because we feed little girls the fairy tale that 'prince charming' will just ride up and scoop them away, that the poor little girls grow up and sit and watch out the window waiting. Instead of getting up and going out and finding him.
Any suggestions?
Jay M2007-05-13T18:04:56Z
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I don't exactly know what exactly you're trying to ask with this question, but if you're saying what I think you are, then I agree. Girls are fed the fairy tales. They watch the movies and read the books of stories where a girl is some low-life loser who's not even looking for love when all of a sudden her world changes when out of the blue, the PERFECT guy just walks into her life and falls completely in love with her and only her. DOESN'T HAPPEN. Girls need to put themselves out there more often, otherwise us guys just assume they're not trying because they have enough men in their life that they don't need one more.
It really depends on the person, their age, what they are looking for and the period they are in in their life.
You may be correct that some women are waiting around and expect someone to come along. My sister was this person. BTW she has been happily married for the last 4 years.
I can only comment based on my own personal experience. I am older for the dating scene and very happy with my life. I have a great career, family and friends and have very little time to waste. I too have tried the internet for dating and have met some great people, however no one I "clicked" with.
I have a full life and am not expecting any prince charming to come along, relationships are hard work. However I am not going to waste my time on someone who for various reasons I do not think it will go very far.
From my experience most men expect more than I want to give in regards to either the starting of a relationship (5 dates a week with one person is too much), sex before knowing each other well (if I just wanted sex I could go into any bar and get it), or a full on serious relationship right away.
So maybe you should ask yourself a question, is it the women your meeting or is it you?
I do think that single women have been fed a bunch of bs that there is a prince charming. The truth is that guy doesn't really exist and that you can never have a successful relationship if you expect men to live up to that standard. I definately don't have all the love in the life I want, but I stopped looking for prince charming, I'm still single, and I still date, but now its about compatibility and attraction. I also know that you have to go look for Mr. Right he's not going to just show up one day if I want to meet someone I have to go out and look for it.
Well, no offense, but I've been single for six years and I surely do not "sit and watch out the window waiting." As a matter of fact, I don't wait at all. I have a rich life of friends, hobbies, and work. Being in my 30's, most of my friends are married...and miserable. I don't care for that life. I can also assure you that I do not lead a sexless existance.
So maybe you are right, I do have all the love in my life that I want: I have the love of friends, family, and my daughter. I don't need a man to complete me.
Good luck finding someone......it's a rough world out there.
I don't think women just sit back and wait for Prince Charming to ride up. If they do, they haven't been dating very long. I, too, have spent time dating online and I actively searched for someone there in addition to looking out for Mr. Right in the grocery store, post office, etc. If single women had all the love that they needed, they wouldn't be putting themselves out there on dating websites. Keep looking. Everywhere. She is putting herself out there because she still has room for more love in her life.