okay me and my friend had a very heated converation over this and i would liek to find out what you guys would say, now she sayd Pre-marital sex is wrong but i say she is being a hypocrite, she hasn't had sex yet but she had done some other things along a sexual nature. also when she asked me if i believe in Pre-marital sex i said its a personal descion for every person and that neither believe nor dis believe in it, and she said well i don't believe in it then, and is aid no every person has to right i decide to have sex or not, now i'm a devoted catholic but somethings i honestly differ on things from what the bible says, i and well aware of what the bible says about sex but its still a personal choice and no i do not believe you will burn in hell if you have sex. what do you guys think?
2007-05-14T15:24:02Z
WAIT WAIT WAIT first of all my friend is a GIRL and we do not live together and she did not give any guys any blow jobs, you guys are very much missing the point, ain't nobody bout to have sex around here its hypottical question and i'm and not a child i'm 19 almost 20 years old and not dumb.
2007-05-14T15:39:02Z
i really think you gys are missing the point, i didn't ask for a lecture i knwo the bible inside and out and am well aware of what it say i'm asking what you guys taught of our conversation. i am feely aware of my persaonly belifs differ from the bibles about this subject and i am allowed to believe what i want, but yes i de beleive in the bible and its word. i should ahve just kep this question ot myself because obviously you guys ar enot getting the point at all
amy_pond20102007-05-14T15:22:26Z
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You should tell her she shouldn't point fingers as there is always pointing back. I don't personnally agree with pre marital sex,however if you choose to then you choose to.
I'm not religious. I've read the Bible four times. My wife was raised Catholic, but is not religious. We have both cried over the fact that we were not each other's "first". We both wish we could convey to you how deep and meaningful that can be, and what it costs when you give it up carelessly without the commitment of marraige. Pleasurable, yes. Painful, definitely. Is it wrong? Yes, by Christian standards. Whether you agree or not, it is still wrong by Christian standards whether you think it is your choice or not. That also doesn't change whether you go to hell or not. That isn't your choice, only how you react to it. Myself, I don't know whether it's true or not. I just know how sad my wife and I have been, and we've been married, quite happily and faithfully, for more than a decade. I wish you wise choices, and deep commitments, while warning you against the promises of men with no or low ethics.
Good luck to you and your friend. It seems to me your friend seems to be being careful to save that "one thing" for her husband. Even that can be a very big thing. It's a compromise, but not so compromising as pre-marital coitus.
If you are so devout a catholic as you say you should know that pre-marital sex is a sin called fornication. that pre-marital sex is a selfish act done with the sole end of obtaining inmediate carnal gratification (lust) and is not enclosed withim the sacrament of marriage, where the love of man and woman expresses freely and with the blessing of God in an institution that safeguards the unity of society and was ordered by Christ to be permanent. There is no room for personal opinion, if you want to follow the commandments of Christ as expressed through the Church. If you however decide to maintain your own opinion and do your will instead of God's it seems that this would not describe a devout catholic, but a nominal catholic, at best. A catholic that can't take the body and blood of Christ at the Eucharistic table because of sin, and of course you should know that for a true catholic to be separated from the Body and blood of Chirst is death, spiritual death, it's the worst for a catholic: to be separated from your Savior. In a sense, and fundamentally it is a personal decision, but if you take the decision of having free pre-marital sex then you are simply not living according to God's standards and you will have chosen something else...freely.
Don't be confused, within the Catholic context, pre-marital sex is a mortal sin. period. Sex is blessed by God and encouraged to be practiced frequently and freely only and only within the sacrament of valid matrimony.
There's a lot of reptilian urges deep within our DNA that peak in our teens. There is no denying that. Telling someone not to have sex when it is a natural part of life doesn't work either. Basing your existence on a mythical bunch of stories in the bible won't work. So, educate yourselves about sex; use protection to prevent both std's and pregnancy (until you are ready for a baby), and don't do it with every guy that comes along. It's your choice, just make it an educated one....
I'm going to try my best t answer your question. Jesus gives us all free will, but if you, me or anyone really has Jesus in our heart all the way, we don't want to do anything that is against his will for us, the holy ghost within us will teach us all things & convict us of things we shouldn't be doing. That being said, you stated that you know what the Bible says about pre marital sex. It is still your choice,but doing the wrong thing might hinder your spirtual growth & blessings. I have abstained from pre marital sex because I want ALL of what God wants for me. It might feel good for the moment, but if I slipped up...I would feel terrible for a long time.