My parents are divorced and my mom (whom I live with) got remarried and had another kid but my dad has yet to get married.My parents got divorced when I was about 3 or so,so its not like it was recent or anything.My dad has had a gf for almost 2 years and they live together and everything but she has a son that is 5 and my dad doesnt do well with kids.He is very mean to her son and he uses other people as punching-bags when something is wrong (finances,job,etc.)so his girlfriend said that she was gonna move out yesterday and i really dont want her to becuz i love her becuz she is very nice to me and this is the closest he has EVER ben to getting remarried and if she leaves i wont get to c my dad very often anymore becuz his job has him working crazy hours.i have been practically in tears for the past 2 days and I dont no wat to do.im only 12 and if she leaves then i will have to c my dad cry and i really dont wanna witness that.please be nice to me for gods sake IM JUST A KID!!!!!!!!!!
2007-06-03T23:34:16Z
My step-dad isnt the best out there.....i mean he isnt abusive or anything but i think my mom deserves better.....My mom is great!!!but my dads gf is like my best friend and i feel more comfortable talking to her....i dont no y...my mom has given me anything i could possibly ask for....AND DONT CALL ME SELFISH IM UNSTABLE RIGHT NOW AND IM ALMOST SUICIDAL!!!!!BE NICE.......
2007-06-03T23:36:48Z
he doesnt abuse her....or any1....he is just harsh EMOTIONALLY....not physically at all....
hotelmajor2007-06-03T23:46:37Z
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Since your parents are not together then you will see people come in and out of your Dad's life. If his girlfriend does move out then your Dad will probably cry in private. (Most adults do when they are sad) If your Dad is not good with little kids then it is probably best that they broke up. His girlfriend has to do what is best for her and her son. (You know how you have a natural instinct to protect your little brother or sister, it's the same feeling just multiply it by a zillion when your a Mother of a child and someone is not kind to your child)
I know that you have grown attached to his girlfriend so call her up before she moves out and ask her to keep in contact with you. You will be old enough to babysit soon so you 2 can see each other then.
Your Dad will always be your Dad. He will be sad when she leaves for a little while but, the pain will go away with time and he might find someone else who is more compatable with him in some time. But, you will always see your Dad, he will make time for you. If not, then you might have to remind him that you want to see him on a more regualr basis.
It's OK to cry that his girlfriend is leaving. No one likes to lose a friend but, hopefully you 2 can talk to each other on the phone and e-mail one another to keep in contact and it won't be so bad.
Your not suicidal so would you stop freakin' saying that! ! ! People who DON'T know you will make damn sure they tell someone that you might be and trust me that's not what you want.
As for your dad's problem, why don't you try talking to him because, maybe since he loves you so much, when you tell him all you've told a bunch of strangers he might actually listen to you. He might be mean to her kid because he doesn't like how your mom had a little one. It's not your fault that he's sad, so stop thinking that because I know you are. Just sit down and have a talk with your dad. If you have any questions about what I'm saying then IM or call me.
I am sorry honey that you have to go though this! However there is nothing you can do to save there relationship. They are grown adults and they know what is best for them. Make sure you let the the girlfriend know how much you care about her. Hpefully you will still be able to see her! Also people don't have to get remarried to be happy! It's okay if your dad never gets remarried. He is free to do what ever he wants. Please talk to your dad about how you feel. Let him know you are sad and that you don't want to him or her hurt.
Take Care and I am so sorry u r going though this. Best of luck. Hang in there, it will be okay.
you have valid concerns for your dad but everyone has to be held accountable for what they're doing to another person. Maybe you could talk to your dad about your feelings. what is easier? talking now or watchign it fall apart wishing you had told him how you felt?
sorry things are so hard. why do you adore her so much when you have a good mom you live with? sounds like your dad's g/f gives you something you didnt get from your mom.
she has to look out for her son--if he's being abused physically or mentally she needs to move out. Since your dad works alot you might be more attached to her than him. Maybe you shuold tell her how you feel and the two of you could remain friends.? you might be only 12 but her son is only 5. take him into consideration too----don't be so selfish!