I need some advice or opinion about adopting.?
Last year my cousin was killed in a car wreck. She left two little girls. Her boyfriend who is on the birth certificate as the Father was sent to prison for drugs just a few months ago. He lost all parental rights by the court. The girls were living with their grandma, my aunt. They always slept in the bed with her on morning they woke up and found her dead. (heart attack) They were then living with their aunt who was sent to prison for driving drink and killing their mother and little cousin. Needless to say these girls at the ages of 7 and 8 have lived a tough life.
They are living in a foster home which is my uncle, their great uncle. It's a good home but because of my uncles and aunt age they are not sure about adopting the girls.
My wife and I have always loved the girls. And I have been very concerned about them since their mother died. Now we are considering, if my uncle deciced not to, adopting the girls. One problem we have is we already have 4 kids of our own. continu
We are more concerned about their ages. One of them is very friendly and loving, the other was like her until lately she has become very rude and mean to others. I know they both really need a loving home my wife and I are very concerned about the older one. Will she always be like this? If she is we are stuck in a bad situation. We are afraid of a rebellious teenager. Remember we have 4 kids now ages 12,11,10, &8.
Another thing we are concerned about is their family is my family. But I have not had a lot to do with them since we have been adults. They are drug abusers, the girls aunts & uncle, my cousins. I don't want to be around those kind of people who only want to think about getting high. I am afraid of how they may affect my kids and my cousin's kids. They do love to have that conection to their dead sister. Do you feel that would affect the kids anyway to have drug heads visiting? It doesn't seem right to me.
Should we adopt?
Kristina W I have a 6 bedroom home that is about two years old. Do you think that may be enough or do you think we might have to add another bedroom? It would be 6 kids and 2 adults. in the home. (3 baths)
angelktb5684 I know teens are rebellious. But what we are concerned about is the oldest already has a bad attitude. My hope would be with a loving hope she would calm down and return to some sense of normal before her mother died. If she doesn't this could be hard on the entire family. They both have a reason to be this way. They both handle it differently. I would love to give them a loving home it's just all these questions I have. This will not just affect the eight of us but our extended family also.
I am leaning more toward adopting them. Everyone has been very helpful.
Please star this so I can get a bigger response. Someone may mention something we haven't thought of.
Thank you all.
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You all have been very positive and helpful. Yall seem to understand the situation.
A special thanks to John the Baptist. The best testimony a person can have is a good testimony that others say about you. Thank you.
His Way Thank you also. This seem to be the closest I have seen to my own situation. Children will not always be perfect but with the help of the Lord everything will work out ok.
The Truth you have given the key to everything in life. Seek God first. Wait on the Lord. This is what I will do. As much as I love these girls I will seek and wait on the Lord. Thank you.
cookingpancake also mentioned the same thing. I thank you both.
Malak you have the same thoughts as what has been running through my mind. If we do adopt I will do as you have said. What is best for all the children is my concerns and to keep them away from such things as much as possible would be best for all. When they do see these people it would be closely supervised.