How do I go about dating someone new when my EX-GF won't leave me alone?
We were together 3-1/2 years when she decided that she wanted to start sleeping with other guys and re-kindle her drug habit. Her words, not mine. She is 47.
I am 38. I have no trouble meeting new women, it just seems that whenever I am out with someone for the first time SHE shows up, gets all flirty with me, and has even gone as far as to introduce herself as my girlfriend.
We have been separated for a little over 3 months.
Unfortunately, I was only given 30 days to get out when I thought that we were moving together so we still live in the same zip code.
Anonymous2007-09-19T07:43:07Z
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First of all, cut off all communications with her.
Secondly, if you're not telling her where you are, then you need to bring your new girlfriends to different hangouts other than the ones that you and your ex went to.
Finally, be stern with her. When she shows up and claim that she's your girlfriend, refute that statement immediately. If she continues to be flirty with you, then not only must you be stern with her, but you must be rude too.
Trust me, you'll never find happiness with another woman if you don't put an end to this nonsense now.
Your ex seems miserable and she wants you miserable too.
You could try going out to places outside your zip code that she won't know but she sounds like she's just stalking you dude!! You could just tell her that it's over between the two of you and to move on already and to let you be. What she's doing is pretty immature. If she doesn't stop harassing you then I suggest a court order for her to stay away from you is in order. A friend of mine had to do that as a last resort since his ex would stalk him at his house, at work, at school and would paint messages to him on his car in white paint. She was pretty psycho if you ask me but the thing that stopped her was the court order. Sometimes people don't know that they've gone too far until you really show them that your REALLY serious.
Well, I would avoid places that the two of you used to go if possible. I would also give the heads up to the new girl, but would definitely try to avoid that conversation until you at least get through the first date or two.
Go someplace new, and don't talk to the ex. Your giving or not giving information might give her the heads up that you're going on a date. If she has known you for that long, then your being evasive about what you are doing on the weekend will give her a clue to look for you.
First of all, I think I can handle her showing up.....lol....okay, second, I think you should keep your dates away from places she would know you frequent and not tell mutual friends what your plans are. If she shows up, let the new girl know she's NOT your girlfriend, but the ex. You may even want to warn her ahead of time, just in case. Keep ignoring the ex and soon you'll be able to move on. Good luck.
Try to ignore her. Tell your new girlfriend the details so that she isnt surprised. You have to be very honest with her because if your ex is still around she will tell her almost anything. Be very firm with your ex. Tell her that you dont like what she is doing and thats its over and that you dont want her back. Dont let her know of your whereabouts. I wonder how she finds you so much. Is she stalking you?