My 2 1/2 year olds Tantrums, how to deal with them?

My 2 1/2 year old has started having screaming tantrums after we come home from doing something fun or if I don't do what she wants.

I am finding it really hard to listen and watch her scream, stop a few seconds, then scream again. It seems she is increasing the scream time in the past 5 days.

I am due to have our second child in 5 weeks. Maybe she senses this. I stay with her or tell her I am there for her but she is a very persistant and strong minded. I sometimes sit in another room (all doors open and she is safe) to give her some time to cool down and also tell her that mommy and daddy don't scream.

How long does this go on for? I never had exposure to children so this is all new to me. I find it upseting to see her go off like that. I love to take her places and we have fun while there and no problems leaving. When we get home she wants to go do something else. I know she is tired or has to eat but there is no resoning with a 2 1/2 year old I know.

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ytrehguod2007-09-18T14:04:27Z

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I am by no means an expert, My son is just starting this tantrum phase but I find what works best for me is time outs. It takes a lot of strength on your part but if you are consistent it'll work. Every time she starts screaming put her in a chair facing the corner. She's 2 1/2 so make her time out 2 1/2 minutes. Get some kind of timer that dings when she is finished and when she's done sit her on your lap. Make her make eye contact and say Liam (that's my son's name) You were on a time out because you were screaming (and whatever else she was doing.) We don't do that is this house. If you do that again you'll have another time out. (and mean it. If she does it again put her on a time out) My son started biting. He went on about 6 time outs in 2 hours. He didn't bite the rest of the day. The next day it was only 2 time outs. The time out works for him.. I hope this helps you.

Anonymous2007-09-19T20:50:48Z

She is going through "the terrible twos". Ignore the tantrums, they are her attempt of getting control of the situation rather than YOU having control. She wants to have HER way so she is going to scream. You can put her in time out, tell her WHY she is going in time out then walk away. Do NOT get into a discussion about mommy and daddy don't scream, she doesn't care. After two minutes take her out of time out and tell her again why she was there and ask for an apology. If the tantrums get out of hand invest in a child gate, put it in the doorway of her bedroom and when she gets out of hand simply place her in her room with the gate up and let her scream. If you have to put on a pair of headphones, be sure to check on her now and then. Eventually the tantrums will go away because she will figure out she can't get your attention that way.

Sharon M2007-09-18T18:59:47Z

I learned the hard way with my first that you just cannot be a part of the whole drama. The best thing to do is put them their room or some other safe place and walk away. Now that my second is two, she can really, really scream. But when I turn my back on her and refuse to engage her, the tantrums last much less than when I try to comfort her or distract her.

M.T.H.2007-09-18T19:12:53Z

Tell her if she continues to scream mommy will take her bunny away and then the fav. blankie etc. etc. TV, Candies, early bed time. The kids will soon realize that with screaming they don't get anything but they will lose things. She is in the age that she will understand what is going on. Just let her know that mommy loves her at the end of the day. I left my son scream and walked away, comleately ignored him and he got it. Good luck.

?2016-10-19T04:40:58Z

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