What should I tell her?

My friend called me (we're not that close, our husbands are friends/co workers so we sometimes hang out, so I don't know why she called me) and left a message in tears, and I know I need to call her back but I'm not sure what to say.
Here's her problem: Her husband was friends with this girl (I'll call E) from high school (they hung out with a group of friends); never dated (that I know of). Well three years ago, E suddenly texts him on his cell, but he was at work and my friend just messaged back that he was at work and she would tell him to call her later (I was there with a couple other people). Well E went off on her! It was awful but my friend didn't stoop to her level. Okay fine. He got home and emailed her that it wasn't right, etc.
Well, he has emailed her a few times over these last years (my friend says she has seen them) because E is in the Army and in Iraq.
Well I guess E is back in the States now and called husband last night and asked for baby pics...

2007-10-07T09:01:54Z

He said yes and then soon got of the phone and told his wife who it was and what she wanted.
My friend says he then laughed and said "she then was like well we better get off before your wife has a fit."

Okay here is the issue. My friend says she not worried about them cheating because E is a Homosexual but she is unhappy about how E is always trying to start sh!t. She said she doesn't want to control who he is friends with but....

What should I tell her?
I think she should tell him to stop talking to E but what do you all think?

2007-10-07T09:06:10Z

Oh yeah, she also said that when she told him last night that she hadn't started it all those years ago he said "stop it".

scout out2007-10-07T09:52:58Z

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I suspect "E" is not emotionally stable, and she's reaching into the past to make sense of the present. I've seen stuff like this happen with my older sister. There's a group of friends who have been out of high school for 20 years, and every once in a while when things get boring (or crazy in a not-so-good way) they get back in contact with one another. "E" probably got so mad at your friend (if I'm understanding this right) because she shattered"E"'s little fantasy of the way things were, and/or embarrassed her for texting. I've seen so many people who can't let go of the high school days. It's like they don't know how to evolve or grow up and deal with adult lives. They regress and it's kinda sad.

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Saphira2007-10-07T09:56:43Z

Why is the Hubby still talking to this 'E' who went off on his wife? I think 'E' is unstable and maybe your friend should bring this up with hubby. This is causing a strain on their marriage and it's his responsibility to take care of it. Having old friends is normally a good thing, however, not when they start causing trouble in a marriage. That's when it's time to put the past behind you.

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kiwibear08092007-10-07T09:37:56Z

So exactly what is the problem? It's an old friend from high school. Tell your friend not to make such a big deal out of this. Now if something else happens through all this then she can start dealing wlith a much bigger problem. For now, she needs to chill.

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Anonymous2007-10-07T09:28:37Z

She needs to tell him how she feels.
She won't be dictating who he can be friends with but that this one person is trying to cause problems.

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