Sparing you the long backstory. Except that I have post traumatatic stress disorder. My son who is 25?
is a rapist. Unfortunately I have enough proof to break through my denial. Now I need to know how to live with this knowledge. I have disowned him, but I hurt so horribly, I don't know how to survive it. I'm on meds, but this is just too much. I can't even really get my head around it. I don't want to believe it, but there is too much proof right in front of me. My daughter told me he molested her when she was young. Now I have so much more proof from others who are afraid to press charges. My hands are tied and I can't stop him, or warn others who will not listen. He also has an std he is knowingly passing out. I know I need therapy, but do any of you have something that can help me until I can get help elsewhere? Thank you in advance.
2007-10-29T05:35:26Z
He got one of the girls he raped pregnant. It is a dangerous pregnancy, she can't handle turning him in so I cannot do anything until she has given birth safely. Yes I can disown him, he is abusive to me as well. I must disown him for my own safety. Maybe without the whole story there is no help for me. This is hell on earth.
2007-10-30T03:11:49Z
never said anything about creatures from outerspace...where did you get that?
Anonymous2007-10-29T04:50:50Z
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Well I'm so sorry for what you are going through but if he started this behavior as a child he is clearly mentally ill. And there are things you can do. Being a part of his life and telling the police what you know. Encourgaing others to step up to the plate including your duaghter.
This is a horrible situtation but it does not matter what he is he is your son and I don't think disowning him is the answer. Punishing him through this solves nothing.
He needs help and being a parent doesn''t stop when your child hits 18.
I noticed that you asked this same question about a week ago and after reading all the answers I have to agree with the one respondent (wingsgirlforever) who said the following: "Now as for you, you need to get counseling talk over these issues you have with your son with a professional. And if your son has done something illegal, or has physcially hurt someone then he needs to be put in jail or some place where you can't hurt another person. And if you know for a fact that this has taken place & you have done nothing about it you could be held liable also for concealing evidence. Do what is the right thing, for your safety & the possible the safety of others."
You really need to make some tough choices soon about this son before he hurts another human being. There is a saying-the best predictor of future behavior is past behavior! Statistics show that these types of people do not stop on their own and often the behavior escalates from bad to worse. Get some help. good luck.
This has got to be so hard on you. Unfortunately, all we can do is raise our children the best we can and just pray that they turn out right. Everyone has 2 paths they can take when they grow up. The important fact to remember is that he is still your son. You don't have to like what he has done. Right now you need to work on you. I would also recommend some medications. Never be ashamed to take any psychotropic medications if you need them. Over 90% of America take medications for something and it's no one's business what you're taking your meds for. You can not live in a constant state of worry and depression for something you can not control. I'm not a doctor, but a nurse - but I myself would recommend and anti-depressant and maybe even an antianxiety agent. For this, you will need to go to a psychologist and he will send you in the right direction for your meds. If this is something that you can't afford (I don't know your financial situation), there are places out there that will help you based on your income. (Here it is called MHMR). Your hands are tied because of your son, but your hands certainly aren't tied in your case. Next thing, ensure that your daughter gets the help she needs. Finally, just pray for your son. Maybe he will find that "right" road soon. God bless you. I'll be thinking about you and your situation.
Indeed. Know this: Depression = Oppression: Down-ward. Hell, on earth, is caused by "more the CHILD of hell (law)": http://www.godshew.org/Allegory3.htm It's also called a latter end that's "worse", in Matthew 12:45 http://www.godshew.org/Revelations9.htm
Natural cure: flax seed oil capsules: have no side effects Spiritual cure: flush all law as dung for grace is sufficient
Then, all the horror, of the tormentors, will simply "vanish". It's kinda like in a Merlin Movie: real magic is at "the end". "The GRACE of our Lord Jesus Christ with you all. Amen."
PTSD-ers all have one thing in common: legalism. You're not alone: over 800,000 usa soldiers have it.
MANY are those who l-o-n-g-suffer with fear(hath torment). You're not alone: read Susan Jeffer's book: FTFADIA.
Help? It's what is available at the throne of grace: Heb 4:16. Pst: only condition is: go there boldly, on behalf of everyone.
Home Alone Movie: Pew Scene: OneLiner? Aren't you getting a little old to be AFRAID?
Quest-i-on posed for YOU to ponder: What's more silly? A child afraid of the dark -or- an adult afraid of the light?
The GRACE of our Lord Jesus Christ with you all. Amen.
by you not going to therapy and getting help, then you are harming yourself. by you not turning your son in, then you are helping him commit the acts.....you need to do what is right here....you have proof of what has happened, you need to turn him in and let him get what is coming to him. you, need to seek out some sort of help for yourself as well. when it comes to rapist, i have no pity for them.....I am a rape victim....the man that raped me did it to several others....i was the lucky on that put him away. I know that b/c of me putting him behind bars, that he can never hurt another woman. you, as his mother, need to do the same thing......make sure he can't harm your child or your grandchildren ( if you have any) or any other woman ever again. do the right thing......