Guys are expected to make the first move to meet someone, and really all the moves. Yet here i am shy and nervous and self-conscious to the point where I can't even approach a woman and just say hi. Why can't SHE come up to ME and say hi? I'm betting it's mostly because I'm ugly and male/female sterotypes saying that females shouldn't approach males. What do you think?
Ryan B
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Really, it has a lot to do with genetics and reproduction. Females have a limited number of opportunities to reproduce, where males have an unlimited number of resources to do so. Because of this, in almost every species, males with unlimited resources compete for females with limited resources, and the females typically get to "choose" who they reproduce with. It's built into our genetic code.
As for your shyness, go outside of your comfort zone. Some of my best expriences have always occurred when I go outside of my comfort zone and experience new and strange things. Don't be afraid to go up and say hi. The worst thing you can have happen is she walks away or blows you off, but that gives you the opportunity to refine your conversational skills so that next time, you're a little more comfortable and you'll find that females really aren't all that scary.
grapevine
Pal, both males and females can be shy and lack the confidence to make the first move. We all fear rejection. You can either either keep on waiting or muster up some courage to make the first move. You will impress her if you do so. Girls generally like confident guys.
Mandy
it's not really a sterotype. it's just more of a tradition or trend. in your case i would just look for girls you can tell make the first moves, like loud and confident girls.
another reason why girls don't make the first move is because they're more emotional and insecure than guys.
badkittie2u
You make some good points.
My hubby was very shy and insecure on how to approach me, so I made it a point to make him secure around me.
I was the one who kissed him first. And I'm the one who initiated sex. So, not all us gals are unwilling to make the first move.
Don't judge yourself so harshly. Looks are only secondary. Truely, it's what's in the inside that counts.
ann s
it's oldschool and the way it has been forever
many women will make the first move
but many women prefer the man make the first move, to chase her per se, it's their perception af manly
many men are taken aback by aggressive women and love the chase
if you want to find a great lady, you need to get over your insecurities and step up, the payoff will be great, accept rejection, it happens to everyone , it just a stepping stone til the right girl comes along