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I have been neither married or divorced yet.
My opinion though is that it is better to be happily divorced than unhappily married.
Good luck with your decision.
Wiz
We made the decision to get a divorce this last week. It was not very difficult to do for us because we know it will not change our personal relationship since we have been separated for 3 years. We care for each other but in the 10 years we were married our interests have changed drastically and can no longer live the same lifestyles. So, we discussed it and decided to get a divorce, although we will remain very close emotionally. Not the norm, I know. Good luck.
Anonymous
My situation was complicated, like most divorces are, but I can tell you that the decision was easy when I really sat down and was objective about it. I filed but he was the one who made the decision to leave (and have an affair). I had to ask myself if I wanted to continue to give second chances (or third in my case) and what example I was setting for my kids. In the end, the decision was easy. I can look myself in the mirror and know that I made the right decision. My kids and I are safe, happy and healthy emotionally now and that is something that never happened when he was there.
Nena S
A divorce is a very difficult and sad thing to go through; but sometimes it's for the best.
I made the decision after having a terrible health crisis, caused by my ex-husband's drinking. I tried to endure this very stressful situation for as long as I could, for my kid's sake; but when I finally got very sick-- and was bedridden for many months-- I realized he wasn't going to change so I decided to ask him to end it.
( I was separated for a year, lived at my mother's place, and had to choose between my mental, emotional and physical health- or an unhealthy marriage. I chose what was best for me and my kid.)
We have been divorced for some years now, and fortunately have an OK relationship. He tries to be a good dad, and I have never spoken ill about him to my kid. I wish him well and know that deep down he knows I tried my best to make things work.
boohoo1964
I was married very young. We were both 16, had 2 kids and were married 17 years. I chose to get a divorce when I knew that I wouldn't be faithful to him and didn't want to hurt him like that. It was hard giving up that security but the love just wasn't there and I think it went both ways. It was the hardest thing ever but we worked together and it never ever became nasty or ugly. We never talked bad about each other in front of our children and today after 9 years we are great friends.. Yes great friends. When he is in town he and his girlfriend stay with us.. Its nice...