Prayer in daycare, okay?

Our daycare is not owned or run by a church. They have decided to teach the children a prayer and have them recite it together before meals. I spoke to the director to voice my concerns and she said that it's really common to have prayer at daycare centers. I really do not want our daycare center teaching my daughter religion. Any religious or spiritual lessons will be taught at home by our family. I know that this would never be permissible in a public school, but what about a privately owned daycare? I really do not want to move her to another center. She is only 4 and she really likes it there. Does DCFS have any regulations? We live in Illinois.

EC Expert2007-12-01T11:27:49Z

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If the program participates in CACFP, the food program administered by the state the prayer is not allowed. Nor is it allowed if the center enrolls kids paid for by Social Services. If it is truly private with no government money involved they may do as they wish. The more serious question is whether you want your child in a program that did not consult parents before making this change and that seems unconcerned about your values and feelings. They have materially changed the program and you would be well within your rights to withdraw, contract or not. In any case, make it quite plain that you do not want your child to participate and that they had better find a way to make that happen without embarrassing her and make sure that all the parents are aware of this policy change.

hsmomlovinit2007-12-01T14:51:23Z

If it's a privately run daycare, the state won't get involved. It's like prayer being allowed at private schools.

Honestly, your 4yo won't learn much in the way of "religion" by saying a little prayer with other preschoolers. The most she'll learn is to be thankful for what she's given. It's not like she's sitting through a Bible study or anything; I've taught 4/5yo's for several years, and at that age they don't get deeply into religious beliefs.

If your daughter comes home saying things that openly contradict what you teach her at home (for example, you're Muslim and she's learning Christian or Jewish theology), I would have a talk with the owner about respecting your family's beliefs. Otherwise, I would really let it go.

JMHO...

I love my pug!2007-12-01T14:25:21Z

Since the daycare is privately owned, not funded by the state, and you are paying for your child to attend there is really nothing you can do other than express your concerns or have her start at a new center that does not do this. Legally...there is nothing that can be done. They are private and decide what they teach whether they are affiliated with a church or not.

Happily married2007-12-01T21:21:59Z

The key word is 'privately owned'. Even if it is not run by a church, it is still privately owned. There are no DCFS regulations forbiding prayer in a privately owned facility. If it was within a public school, it would not be allowed.

Anonymous2007-12-01T22:17:40Z

I don't think you can do anything since it is privately owned. You can only take your kid out of that daycare. Also, the reason it can be disputed at public schools is because they are supported by tax money and are state run.

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