With your mate, or anybody else? Mine and I try to have a real date night every once in a while, dressing up and going out to a romatic dinner or a movie by ourselves. Sometimes he brings me flowers to start the evening. Sometimes we just stay home and rent a movie and share a bottle of wine, but we always make a special date.
2007-12-07T11:21:26Z
I think it helps to just set aside a date, it helps to reconnect and just relax with each other.
2007-12-07T11:23:51Z
You can't always have a "date" if you wait to be asked, call up a friend and invite him/her to have coffee or something! It doesn't have to be romantic. Just getting together and giving someone the gift of your time, is the best gift of all.
Der Lange2007-12-07T11:10:29Z
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Isadora, what a lovely habit you and hubby have! I enjoy the antics of a colleague, who, like you, makes "dates" with her hubby all the time. Of course, these two have been like teenagers with a first crush, ever since their daughter went away to college. Hee, hee ...
I go out from time to time, as often just for the pleasant company and good times around town as for any more specific interest. Recently went out with a delightful, VERY TINY, younger woman who loves ballroom dancing. I taught that in college, and didn't ever expect to find a partner. Nice time, even if I had to dance most of the evening on my knees (I'm 6'4", and she's 4'11"). My next date is at a restaurant where I will surprise an occasional companion by singing to her for her birthday! Whee! She has forgotten she heard me serenade Mom on her birthday last September and asked me back for this encore ... gonna be FUN ...
A Real date with a Man? I go out all the time with friends. Lunch dates/Movies with girlfriends and my adult daughter. I do have special times but, no special someone! I have declined some invitations and am not by any means lonely!
Dating a man is however a different story. Where I live there is a saying because of the ratio of men to women:
The Odds are Good but, the goods are ODD!
I think it's a wonderful practice you have!
Edit: After writing this I got a lovely email from an admirer named Chris. Here is what it said, entitled: Subject: Feminazi
So what are you? A man hating lesbian? I can't stand women like you. You think you're better than men and you think all men are the same so you choose to have nothing to do with any male.
Isn't that cute? So sweet and literate, I think he's about 13 years old. Oops! Blocked!
A Date? Hey, I remember those. Let me see, the last time I went on a date was 1 year, 5 months, and 4 days ago. Yep, I remember because it wasn't our last anniversary, but the year before that we last went on a date. We do go out to dinner every Friday (with the kids) and we go to the movies too (with the kids), we also take vacations (with the kids). Doing things as a couple is very rare these days; however, we will be going on a sort of date on the 14th to a company Christmas dinner without the kids, so I'm pretty sure that qualifies as a date...doesn't it? I miss dating, sniff.
I have a couple of friends that I've known for 25 years. Both live a distance away (thank goodness...no "dropping in"). Neither have any interest in marriage or living together (my thoughts, exactly).
We get together several times a year (not all at the same time, HA!) for dinner and a show or a long weekend trip or for vacation, cruise, beach, etc.
No stress, no mess, we get along and like each other, enjoy each others company...that's all that's required.
I have been asked out many times but usually decline. Most of the men are looking for "mama" or for someone to do their laundry and to be invited for a home-cooked meal once in a while.
No Thanks.
I'm in the market for adventuresome, independent men, self-confident, self-assured, educated and willing to "go" at the drop of a hat...and pick up their own expenses....
I don't want to be some poor saps substitute wife or mama....
Most men my age never grew out of the 1950's...so full of "shoulds" and "oughts" and hangups.
My husband and I "date" every Wednesday and Saturday nights. Saturdays we usually go out (first.......); Wednesdays we stay home, but we still get dressed up (at least I do!). We started this a couple of years ago when I realized that I was allowing the stress of my job and the weariness I always seemed to feel to take over my life, and I suddenly realized I wasn't really being fair to my husband (he had never complained). We're having a lot of fun, and just knowing that it is "date night" not only gives me the fun to look forward to, but somehow helps me shake off the stress and find some energy.