Im in love with a married woman....what do i do?

She admited later on she was married, we never got to serious, but we both are crazy about eachother. I told her I wont be a nightcap, so until she leaves hubby, we will not be having sex, period. She wants kids, he doesnt, shes been on the pill for 15 years! He doesnt work to help support her! Her fear is that she is comfortable with him, shes afraid to leave that, shes been with him since she was 18, so im not sure if WE have a chance. What do I say? What do I do? What should I tell her? Im just so lost. The thing is, we havent even kissed, and neither one of us can stop thinking about the other. We share so much in common that we can tell eachother to calm down before the other even says a word.lol Please feel free to leave comments for her and I. Thanks in advance for all of your comments....

furface2008-01-04T11:41:23Z

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if you and her would just sit down and talk about what u both want it might make it easy for u who knows this one could be your one and only true love so don't just think you can walk away you may spend the rest of your life wondering what if talk it out with her she isn't happy where she is or she wouldn't be talking to u since u have not even kissed i would say she is a good girl good luck

chinamigarden2008-01-04T12:00:27Z

Run away. This is a bomb waiting to explode on you. First of all it sounds like she mislead you at first and didn't tell you she is married, thats a big red flag, not only is she deceiving her husband, she started out by deceiving you. It also sounds like she is hearing the old biological clock ticking and about 2 minutes after you and her are together she is going to be preggers. So here you will be with a woman, fresh off of a long term relationship, someone you haven't even kissed until this time, and she is with child, your child. Now you are stuck. Stuck because instead of courting her and getting to know her, you have created the untimate bond with her. A child.

Get away from her, let her work out her problems without you in the mix. If in a year or so she is divorced and she wants to see you then, well good luck. Just remember, she is ready to cheat on husband #1, think she will treat you different?

Anonymous2008-01-04T11:53:24Z

Walk away my friend..walk away.We all meet people from time to time that we have a lot on common with and get along great. It doesn't mean we are a great match or will get along well once in a relationship. Bottom line is that she's married and that's a part of her life that she needs to address herself with no input from you. Don't put yourself in the postion of breaking up a marriage and then finding out down the road that the two of you can't make it work either. She wasn't up front with you from the beginning to let you know she was married so I feel she has proven she can be deceitful both with you and her husband. I would step very carefully with this lady. If she is willing to cheat on him....what makes you feel that it would be different with you? You need to do some serious thinking and soul searching before you decide to get involved between a married couple.

Barbi T2008-01-04T11:31:19Z

Look.....

This woman would cheat on her husband. She'll cheat on you.

You should find a woman who is NOT married. She's not very honest, because she didn't tell you of her marital status until "later on". When you first showed an interest, she should have told you then.

If she wants to be with you, she needs to leave her husband and get a divorce. Then, if you still want to have a relationship with a woman who has shown less than honest behavior, you'll be free to do so, and so will she.

I'd back off and wait to see what she's really up to. I'd tell her it's decision time.

Good luck guy. Sounds like you're gonna need it.

bardmere2008-01-04T11:36:24Z

you need to satisfy her doubts. so find out what they are in detail. address them one at a time. you can only address them in terms of how you expect yourself to be able to respond. as an example, assuming you get married, how long after that would you be ready to start a family and why that answer is your best answer right now.

ok that's answer to your question. you haven't asked some important. so be advised that when you satisfy her doubts, you've created a real expectation on her part which will form the basis for a divorce and marriage. point is that when you do these answers you need to certain the answer is complete and within your own ability to execute. you're taking another persons life in your hands.
Good luck

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