Does anybody think married men should have close female friends?
Me and my husband have been together for twelve years and married for eight of those years. for some reason he has always had to have some female that calls him, send text messages that i feel are inappropiate.I wont go in to details but they are to the point that I always have to wonder is he cheating on me. What bothers me is when I question him about it,and when I let him know how i feel, instead of him putting these girls in check he just rather cover everything up by deleting all messages or waiting till i'm at work to talk to them. Is this right or am I over reacting.
Anonymous2008-03-15T10:15:26Z
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I think its ok for my hubby to have close friends, but to hide it is another story. That automatically makes it look suspicious even if he isn't doing anything. That he is not listening to your feelings, or trying to understand where you are coming from. It sounds like he feels he is in trouble and thats why he hides it. Do you ask him in a non-accusatory way? So he didn't get defensive about it and shut you off completely? Maybe its just me, but I would ask him if he understands how it makes me feel. I don't know your relationship is or how you are normally but its definately a balance between the both of you and if yours, or his, needs aren't being met then maybe try a different way of communicating.
Well, aren't you living my life? If you are suspect something...then it probably is true. My husband "had" a close female friend/co-worker. She even became my friend since we started doing things together as a family. I felt something was up so I accidentally (on purpose) read a few "work" emails in his saved folders. There is was in black and white. The lies, the deception. The idiot saved the emails. I am hurt, I am disappointed and angry. I deleted everything. But, I have those damn emails memorized. I can't get it out of my head. I haven't decided what to do. Bottom line, if you want to know, if you really want to know, then you can find out. But, be warned...your world will be crushed! (after 12 years of marriage, 2 beautiful children) To answer your question...HELL NO.
I was not sure if you had express your feeling fequently to him, or lead him to hide it up rather to get into trouble.
There is always good to talk to opposite sex, problem is when you became a partner, you have a lot of secret and don't want to let your partner know.
I guess you better cool off first unless you have evidence, it's nothing you can do except acceptance or not. he won't change his way not because he don't love you, just maybe he cannot share thing with you.
I know how you feel. A lot of men need those female friends around to make them feel like they still got it, but if he is going behind your back to talk and text them then something isn't right and I would do something about it.
oh no thats not right i think you need to talk. yeah i do believe that married men or women can have friends from the opposite gender but not to that extend. you need to ask him honestly be open to him because if you don't this will carry on and on and you would be going around in circles. hope it all goes well.