Where may I meet birth mom's wanting to place their baby for adoption?
My husband and I would like to raise and love a child together and feel adopting a child would allow us to do so. However, I am unsure where to connect with a birth mom wanting to place her child. All the agencies seem to have very high price tags attached to matching and we aren't completely convinced that the birth mom is really getting the assistance she may need from these agencies. We are just begining, so any advice is appreciated.
2008-03-28T21:55:02Z
I am sorry!! Perhaps I am on the wrong site. I was surfing for questions an= d answers about adoption and yahoo answers came up. I click on something and it said I had to register to ask the question. I am not trolling for babies. You don't have to believe me or not. I saw that there were people who adopted on this site not from this site, thought they could shed some light on adoption. I have looked online and it seems like all babies for adoption are 20K to 30K. That just seemed weird. I guess it is the norm. I really don't know. Why is everyone being so hateful?
Anonymous2008-03-28T23:17:06Z
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Try calling your local DHS. There are thousands of children waiting in foster care for homes, and in most states, there is no cost.
Soliciting for a pregnant woman so that you can take her baby is illegal. If you absolutely must have an infant, please reconsider adopting. Children are human beings, not to be bought and sold. Most infants do not need to be adopted. Most infants could be raised by their mother if the mother had just a little support. Children in foster care, however, need homes.
Please do a LOT more research on adoption before starting the process. Stick around here for awhile, read some old posts, listen and learn. There's a whole world out there that you don't hear about from the general public. Adoption is not the sunshine and roses insititution it has been marketed as.
sorry i havent got any answers for you but i just want to say that i think this is a wonderful thing you and your partner are doing and i hope you will ignore the ignorant people on hear that can't seen to understand your question. May i also say that i can't beleive how much it coats to adopt in America i live in the uk and have 5 adopted cousins and it cost no more than the legal fees which were reduced price and some of them cost nothing as social services paid for this, i think its disgusting that they want you to pay to do such a wonderful thing i understand that you have to pay for your medical care in america so i understand that adoptive parents usually fit the bill for the birth but where does the rest go? surley it would be better off used to care for the child?
okay so as an adoptee I can tell you I am not offended. I am sorry people are being so rude. You could try contacting an adoption attorney. My parents did my adoption through an attorney. I have NO idea if this is any easier or less expensive as I know nothing about the cost. I wish you the best of luck. I would also probably not suggest using yahoo answers for this type of thing only because there are a lot of anti-adoption people from what I have seen on this site. Good luck!
Freecat before you begin any type of adoption search, I'd beg you to educate yourself fully on adoption. I'd also suggest that you make this an independent education and not rely on any information provided to you by any adoption agency or professional. They have a vested interest in keeping potential adoptive parents in the dark.
The first thing to keep in mind is that many people find the term 'birth mom' offensive. It's a very emotionally violent and stereotypically sexist term that implies a woman is just a uterus and only provides a service for (usually richer) married couples.
Even among people who don't find the term 'birthmom' offensive, most agree that a woman is an expectant mother until she gives birth, a mother after she has given birth, and the term 'birthmom' only is valid AFTER an adoption is final.
I'd suggest at the very least, these links as a way to begin to understand the lifetime issues of being an adoptive parent:
Let's not forget the father of the child or you could be in court for years to come and still never adopt the child or better you might get sued for your actions. This does happen because my son is going through this with a couple who had no care on his feeling of wanting to raise his child and now they are wondering why their getting sued.