how can I advice my friend to stop with what she is doing?
I have this friend infact my bestfriend she is only 18 and she is very younger than me and I just think that she is the ideal frind for me. Anyway during this past few days we did not see eachother because I was very angry at her coz of things that I heard about her and this guys that she dates. It is like this her mom and dad don't live together and she stays with her brothers and cousins her mom is merried to another man and the father has alot of other girls almost her age.She then blames her father for what she is today,in this past time she has had about 7 guys that she had slept with and they give her money for the sevice.She brakes my heart and I don't want to see her go away with life. What can I tell her to make her fell that she can be better then her father I love her as my one and only friend and I want to make her feel free to come and tell me if those things are bothering her again.PLEASE HELP!
crestfallen122008-04-10T03:36:00Z
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Tell her that she isn't alone and that you're always there for her. She shouldn't waste her life because our life is only borrowed from God. We control our lives, drive it to where we want. I think she just lost control of her stirring wheel and went to the wrong direction. Good guidance and direction would help her. Spend time with her and bring her to places where it is peaceful..and also fun. She needs to enjoy life. Not enjoying by using bad methods but enjoying by being the best that she can be. Give her confidence.
there isn't one magic thing you can say hun. What she really needs is to go to a counselor and talk about her life, and learn ways of changing her self image and self esteem - it's why she does what she does. She doesn't like herself very much - plus the fact her dad isn't there for her, so she is looking to have a male figure in her life and she assumes (wrongly) that sex will keep a guy from leaving her.
She has to WANT help though - and I'm not sure you could convince her. If you are still in HS you could talk to your school counselor about her - see if they can help.
go up to her and make sure she's ina good mood! and ask if snything is on her mind at all?..
catchup on anything that you both need to talk bout just to break the ice a little bit..
and then just open up the question why she is sleeping around? and not respecting her body and herself while she is so special..(dont make it sound perverted)
then let her know that wahtever she does affects you too, she falls and you do too, but even while your falling you'll catch her
You can't control other people's behavior, only your reaction to it. Continue to support her. Tell her that you don't agree with her choices and tell her why and what could happen to her if she continues down this path. Also make sure that she knows that you are there for her reguardless of what she does. That may just be what she needs, to decide to change for herself.