Ok I'm 26 and engaged, I have 2 children ages 10 and 8 whom are not my fiancee's children but, he really loves them and is a great role model. Well I met this guy at work, I look horrible at work just b/c of the job that I have and he kept complimenting me and saying the most amazing things to me I must say he has swept me off my feet, totally unexpected. He is also in a relationship and has a baby, we have been talking for about a week and the attraction is unreal...I don't want to leave my fiancee' and we haven't talked about being "together" but, what if it gets to that point what should I do??
Anonymous2008-06-19T20:55:13Z
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well it sounds like this guys is nice and sweet, but you are already in a relationship and so is he and things might not work out. and at the age of 26 with 2 kids i think you should think about your kids and that they probably need a father, but i mean talk to your kids and ask them what they think about your finance ask them how they feel about him and if things are good then stay with him. I know there will be other guys that might be nice and attractive but think of your kids you probably don't want to put them through that if they are happy and more importantly you are happy.
Infidelity is not a way to make a lasting relationship. You are playing with fire. This will be a learning lesson with lots of causualities. How much do you think of your kids when you are with this guy who has his own family. You must find what attracted you to your current love and rekindle that other wise you will be like my mother and father who both had more than 10 people between them. You ca not imagine the hell you will put your children through but if you want that for them continue to play with fire.
mzkee she had one at 16 and the other 18 do the math. I not a bean counter but know a sixteen year old can have a baby my mom did eventally had 9 with 3 different men.
Just because some guy compliments you to death you're going to ditch your fiancee? Honey, get a backbone. If you wanna ruin everything for your children then go for it...but you've known this guy for a week? Please. Your children need a stable mother...this isn't high school. Being "engaged" to someone is serious.
Obviously your not ready for the commitment of Marriage. So tell your boyfriend you had kids to young and unable to enjoy life. You need more time to make sure he is the one. Better to find out before then after you married.