is it noticed if your spouse is having an affair or even, regularly visiting his "second home" ?
I'v a friend I stayed with for more than a year. Quite frequently, some other friends will come visit say, twice a week and we chat till late at night. Whenever we see her husband, he's very casually dressed and goes out after dinner (carrying his sports bag) He doesn't come home till midnight or even past midnight. We are wondering - where a man can go for this many hours each night (on the premise that he's playing tennis/badminton). And his wife seems to totally believe. Should we all alert her ?
InspectorBudget2008-06-26T18:08:37Z
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If there is no outright problem between the husband & wife, and no signs of abuse or violence - then you should not stick your nose into their lives.
You don't know where he goes, or what he does, but she probably knows. It may be just a job at a gym, or as a coach, etc. Maybe he's a security guard at night.
It'll cause problems for your friendship if you get involved. Stay out of it.
I'm almost 100% sure that she has asked herself that very question and is either purposely avoiding it, or else they have some kind of pre-arrangement that is mutually agreed upon (like an open relationship).
Furthermore, it may have nothing to do with another woman. That could have been his behaviour over that one week, because they had guests, and he wanted to get away and have some peace.
Either way, it's not your place to meddle, unless she brings it up. IF she asks you what you think, feel free, otherwise you don't know how she'll react, and you may be the one that gets kicked to the curb.
No, not unless you have photos. It is also a possibility that she doesn't care or they have some type of arrangement, so it would be wise to ignore their personal life.