If your partner cheated on you, would you give em a second chance?
Situation 1 : They were not drunk or under any influences, completely aware of what they were doing..
Situation 2 : SOO totally drunk..
And why do you or do you not give em another chance..?
Anica
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Situation 1: HELL NO.
If you`re girlfriend (since you`re a guy) is seriously in love with you, and is serious with you, she can never manage to do such a thing. If, say, she is about to do the cheating, she`s SUPPOSED to suddenly see you in her mind and get bothered by her conscience. Meaning, she wouldn`t do it coz she loves you. So if she does, it means she either "forgets" about you (therefore she doesn`t really love you), or thought about you but didn`t really care.
Situation 2: NO !!
Biologically speaking, a person`s hidden - yet very true - personality/feeling comes out when one is drunk. Especially when they`re so totally drunk. Meaning, if she`s drunk and cheated, she probably has a hidden desire/love for that guy, or just a complete ***** by heart.
Kyle S
I personally haven't been in a relationship. Although I still would know what to do :D
In situation 1, I would first talk to the person and get them to understand why i'm not to "pleased" with them. Then I would point out all the consequences if they don't listen or take the time to sit and rationally talk about it. If the person i'm with starting complaining or getting angry, I would probley call it quits and head on out the door.
In Situation 2, I would definately point out the problems with getting smashed causes for a relationship. I would probley let this slide a little bit easier, but if it happens again. Then I would be moving on already.
In both situations the outcome would vary with the age of the people in the relationship and how long the relationship has lasted. From the sounds of it, your partner matters to you quite a bit and your not messing around.
I would definitely talk to your partner and find out if they have the same future goals for your relationship. If your partner does not have the same goals you might just be turned off from them and the same as them to you. Which could mean you might get to be friends too.
Everything I said might be like the extreme of the situaitons, because everything can be worked out. Like I said, if you have the same goals, then you can both accomplish whatever those are. I wish you the best of luck :D
-Kyle S.
corrina
Those are decisions only you can make. It is the ultimate betrayal in a relationship. Forgivable for some & not for others. I am assuming you are still together because you say he seems devoted to you & the children. But keep in mind anyone who is caught doing anything as serious as this usually is humble for quite a while afterwards & will do & say whatever it takes to avoid further confrontation hoping the matter will go away. Guilt has a way of keeping a person in line. Sometimes temporarily, sometimes permanently. You know him better than anyone here. You must ask yourself. Am I staying for the sake of the children or can I truly & completely forgive him keeping in mind of course that he had the opportunity to come clean, didn't & then went ahead with with his nasty little deed. There has to be a "yes" answer to either of those two questions. If it's for the children, then you & they shouldn't be there. You're only prolonging the pain. If you can honestly forgive him "unconditionally" then stay & get some counselling. Once a cheater always a cheater is the old adage. Only you know if it applies here.
Nia
No. To all the young girls and ladies out there, listen here...no, don't give your partner a second chance, he will not change! As they say, 'once a cheat, always a cheat'...so don't go about thinking that you can change a person, esp a selfish person/cheater. If you give someone like that a second chance, he will not only think that you are gullible and easy, but he will also take you for granted (he knows you are always there for him, so he can do anything he wants).
As for situation 2: No, thats only an excuse.
Anonymous
Unless she begs me until I hati lembut, then I give her second chance, but I would become cold to test whether she's sincere to change or not..