Children of gay lesbian bisexual transgender parents, LGBT parents, or anyone with advice?
My mom is gay and has a domestic partener. Since they have been together since i was 3 i guess you could say i have 2 moms. (My mom was once married to my dad but he is now out of our lives) I am very lucky to have two people who love and care about me. However, I have never had to come out and tell people my situation. Either they already knew or nothing neededd to be said. But now I'm having a friend from school visit me who doesn't know about my home life. I feel i need to explain it to her before she comes but i'm not exactly sure how to put it. I don't want to say i'm embaresed because that's not the right word, rather i'm just nervous to her response. Any advice on how to tell her?
Also i don't know if this matters but she is visiting me because my mom's domestic partener has "connections" in my friends field of study and these connections are really going to help my friend. When i told her this i wasn't exactly clear on who was helping her out..
2008-07-07T18:05:44Z
Thanks in advance fo any help. I know it was kind of long.
Ethernaut2008-07-07T18:29:43Z
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Well, I kind-of double-think here, but here-goes; my two cents..
You should probably tell your friend. If for no other reason, simply for the emotional safety of yourself, your friend, and your mothers. I can't say, simply due to being unfamiliar with your particular situation, how likely the situation is to get bad, but it's a safety precaution, nonetheless.
My father is a male-to-female transsexual, in the midst of transition (looks and "acts" female, if you didn't know her well you likely wouldn't know). I've always told any friends who didn't know as soon as the time felt right and I was sure either of the acceptance of the person, or my preparedness to defend the situation in argument.
Remember, if your friend is truly a "friend," even if she disagrees with the situation at hand, she'll be able to look past the situation, and any inherent differences.
On how to tell her: just say it when the time feels right. Don't pussyfoot around about it. It may seem hard to do, but it's like when you rip a bandage off an area where hair has gotten stuck to it—you just gotta rip it off—it's hard to do sometimes, and it may hurt (or cause awkwardness, in the non-metaphorical sense), but it has got to be done, but ultimately, it's the easiest way.
You just gotta be straight up with her. Just sit her down and say "Since you're gonna be spending the night I should let you know that I have two moms. My parents are a lesbian couple. Are you ok with that?
ok first of all I dont think you need to tell her..when my friends came over they did not ask any questions and some of them I have told just recently and they are not surprized at all. So you have nothing to worry about.
Just say you have 2 mothers, she can either just say "alright then" or she could ask to know more about it - just tell her. If she's ignorant enough to not want to come round, then it's her loss.
If she is a reasonable person, it shouldn't bother her at all. ONly racists and stupid ignorant people would disapprove of this. Then again, you should tell her really well, so that she isnt too startled. It depends if she is closed or open minded. good luck, and good on u. â¥