Does your spouse know you're asking and answering questions on Y!A Marriage & Divorce?
For all of you married folks - Does your spouse know you're using this Y!A forum? Have they read all your questions and answers? Would you be comfortable if they did? Is this forum a useful place to exchange information, or should we be spending more time talking to our spouses instead of anonymous strangers?
OK my wife has no idea, but I don't think keeping this from her is a big deal since she doesnt share all her "girlfriend" chatter with me. And since guys have a much more difficult time establishing and maintaining the kinds of friendships where we actually talk about marriage stuff I think this is a good resource. Wives out there am I way off base with this? Would you see this as "cheating" or "lying"? How would you react if you discovered your husband had a Y!A account that you didn't know about?
Amenity2008-07-10T20:46:57Z
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No my husband does not know I go on here to answer/ask questions. My husband knows I use the computer thou, but he trust me,which he should. He knows I would never do anything stupid to hurt him like cheating/lying.
It is not a bad thing either that I go on here, it is definetly not cheating/lying, just innocent asking and telling. Sometimes a person want to see other people views on a topic other than their own. I think it is great b/c u get most of the time true responses, and it is coming from people u dont know.
YES, My wife sets in the same room while I do it. I am not here to solicit young girls, or seek anything. I get a strange satisfaction when I give somebody advice that they can actually use. I wish I had something like this when I was a kid, my life would be so much better. People giving good advice anonymously. The other good thing is people that are misleading, or trying to get something have no advantage here and usually leave after a short round. Most of the crap I answer are things that excite me like suicide, abuse, and confused kids, in need of advice. When I get a best answer to one of these I feel like a superhero. My little message may have saved a life, or just changed a bad situation, into an alternative ending. My wife doesn't care about people anonymously. she needs the interaction and comradely, of social situations. I really can't imagine her doing this, or even starting an on line romance/ flirtation, just not her style, totally out of character.
Oh my husband knows I answer questions on here. I am sure if he wanted to he could find out what I have written. I don't mind if he does the same. It doesn't bother me. I trust him 100% and he trusts me. I am just on here to give advice to people and hopefully some decent advice at that. I have a good marriage and I want to share my experiences with others on what I feel has worked for our marriage and what hasn't and advice on those things that I have much experience in.
I wouldn't see it as cheating or lying as long as he is just getting advice or giving advice. Not trying to pick someone up or start an internet relationship with a specific person.
Well no I don't feel that not telling her is cheating nor lying because let the truth be told my husband has no idea that I am even on line writing and recieving help on my marriage from anwers, but if he did know he would be pissed. I think that this is a help as well because Ii can't speek with him about everything or I have and he wont respond so I come to you guys for feedback. So it's a source to vent and have support we all need that.
My husband knows and sometimes tells me his opinion on certain things. He doesn't mind -at all- that I'm here and often reads or I read for him what some of my answers/questions say. He travels a lot so I'm home alone very often and being here gives me something to do when I can't fall asleep. I would -probably- mind if he hid something from me or did this without me knowing about it. Why "hide" something if you're not doing anything wrong?