I sent my old flame from HS days an e-mail in answer to her own, and I signed it I love you. and I said I hope that doesn't get you in trouble. Two days later she wrote me, and said, "I made better choices in my youth than as adult", and she signed it I Iove you too. What do you suppose is going on. Is it possible for that flame to still be burning a little or a lot.
Alucard
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Personally? I believe that there is always a special love for your first love. If you stay with your first love, that is great and i applaud anyone who does that and I am happy for them but if you move on, like the majority of the people do, a lot of them still harbor feelings for their first love. In my opinion, yes people do still love their first love in a special part of their heart but it is sort of like a sister or brother sort of love or a fantasy love because a first love is supposed to be pure and untouched. Nothing is wrong with it and you have such an incredible passion for each other that can never die. And that still appeals to you because, in most cases, you do not have it at this time. (not specifically you, just people in general) If you do happen to have an unhindered special and passionate love then that is wonderful! But nothing is ever like your first love, it's the first completeness you find in someone, your first true best friend and also your first impurity, the first stain on your heart. It is a special kind of love and yes, most people do get over their first love and move on only to look back at it with nostalgia and happy feelings or perhaps staying friends and just being that. Friends. ^_^ I hope I've helped even though this is just from my personal experience and my own opinion. Also, with your situation, as I hadn't answered that previously, I see she still has feelings for you if she returned the I Love You but you must dig deeper and find out what sort of I love you it is, as there are all kinds! And they are all wonderful! But dont break up with someone to be with her and I advice her not to break up with someone to be with you as the old saying goes "Never leave someone you love for someone you like because someone you like will leave you for someone they love." There is a reason your first love was your first love and isn't still your first love. But if you two are willing to give it a go then I wish you well on your beautiful journey of love and happiness!
Photodaddy
I think you know the answer to the question, and really only you can answer it. Of course the flame is burning.
But keep in mind, the relationships we had in our youth will always seem better when contrasted against our present. And not always because the person was a better companion. I would bet a lot of it has to do with the fact that our youth was a far more care-free time for most of us. It was certainly a more promising time. We had a whole lot more future in front of us, with so much potential. Now that our potential is on a much shorter leash, its VERY easy to look back on days gone by and ask "what if?" Why do you think old people are always talking about "back when i was a boy..."? Cuz they got the shortest "leash" of all.
Just my observations. You decide what is best for you, and thanks for listening.
ashafa olasunkanmi
Sincerely this Is so true, I still do love very much my 1st.
He is actually the 1st and only love, although am in a marriage relationship now ( not legally married by religion or court- just family intro). I hv two kids and his divorced with a daughter, but it seems like he is d only one who truly understands me.
I feel alive nd happy when ever we talk, we laugh alot that which is missing in my home. Although he lives abroad but know so much about each other like we stay the next door.
I still hope, pray and dream silently to be together, if der is anything like dying wish his number one.
he is a source of strength when am down even when I hv issues with my partner, he comes in as the only person I confide in and really he quiet understands always the fact that he doesn't want me to be vulnerable (respects for my partner and home).
For so many reasons I still desire him so much that lately I almost said the words I LOVE U
I am equally afraid of rejection or rather scared to take the step, what if he wont work? or hw will ple view one's action with disregards to ones feelings etc. Am just confussed and very unhappy with my situation right now
Oh Snap
I'll always have a special place in my heart for my first love. It is very possible that the flame is still burning for you - a lot.
Trust your gut feelings. Good luck.
oompaloompa571
I hope you dont ever get over your first love. I still love mine and i truly never want to stop (we arent still together) And yes that is definitely a sign that she thinks there could be something. but if you decide to pursue that then take my advice...go slowly... after so long she and or you could be idolizing everything you may have once had. But if you think it could be worth somethign then definitely give it a shot.