You know....after you break up with someone and like 2 months down the line you suddenly and CONFUSINGLY start getting feelings for them again. Anyone ever get that?
It'd be stupid for me to say I don't but I do and it sucks. Especially since I'm seeing someone right now. It's not a big problem but still.
HOW long did yours last if you did get post-ex feelings.
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ShaKri
No such thing as a certain date. It would be nice if that was true. :) Every relationship comes with an expiry date. Wouldn't that be ideal! But fortunately, I am glad that isnt so. A bad relationship does not mean that you have to forget the good moments you had with your ex. But that should not be the only reason for you to feel the need to get back with him. Just try to look for ways to move on and recall the good times you spent with your ex. That is not fair for the current person in your life.
Good luck.
Cheers,
SK
ps: I have fond memories of mine even now. After 5 years. :)
Anonymous
Oh yeah man, I totally can relate. It sucks. You feel stupid for having those kinds of feelings, and then you start to doubt stuff. It takes a while though, depending on how long you and your ex were together, and how intense and great your guys's relationship was. I'm in a relationship right now, and I'm still not over one of my exes. I dated her for like...6 months, but I can't really tell my boyfriend or anything. It's kind of a sticky situation. But eventually those feelings'll pass. Just don't let it mess up this new relationship you're in.
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well, if the arranged couple marries...they really dont know each other. someone does and arranges the two to be married. and because their marriage is arranged...to not try to make the marriage work is the slap the faces of the people who arranged the marriage and so you see it is a different arrangement altogether. it is more of a 'marriage' contract. it is not a 'love' contract. here in the west, some who marry with a preconceived notion that love will last or be continuously happy, they are misguided. they dont know what a 'marriage' contract entails. they dont realize 'marriage' as a contract and has 'rules' to abide by that hold the couple together. in the arranged marriages...the contract and rules are abided by more and mediation from family input when the couples become unhappy...they refer to the 'vows' and persuade the couples to regroup. here...marriage seems to be more or less unequal because women work outside the home and at home and the men expect or hope that she'll care for everything as the old fashioned women did and that yet still have the same basic male instincts of infidelity during marriage and possessiveness and insecurities of other men looking at their wives and the other women are trying to get the married man for herself. its a whole nother culture really. its like comparing apples to oranges. lot of the women in western culture are encouraged to put their kids in daycare and let others take care of their kids which means anybody can shape the child's moralities and sensibilities and decisions in life. this causes married couples to lesser bonds with their kids, two jobs cause lesser encouragment for the predominately male maturity as a protector over his wife and family. its just different. western marriages are affected by so much more than the 'arranged marriages' of a completely different culture and morality.
MummaJumma
Sorry but there is no timeframes and in most cases you will find that they will stay with you forever. You will get over them,just every now and then you may tend to remenise...Its Healthy, Its Human...I wouldn't feel to concerned about it..So long is you don't act on it...but then that's up to you too!
Life is funny...