Fat crush on this college boy I've known for a month. But he has a gf... What do I do?!?!?
I have a fat crush on this amazing college freshman. I am also a college freshman and we live near each other. The first couple weeks of school we totally hit it off and hung out together all the time. There was even "innocent" touching (none of the bases or anything, just like holding hands and standing close and leaning on each other). He told me all sorts of secrets and just stuff in general and I totally fell for him: really smart, funny, ballsy, cute, social but also nerdy, etc. The problem is that he has a girlfriend of two years who is all the way across the country at a really good school as well. He was totally open with me about this relationship (it's an open relationship, but they're still together). So I told him no closeness because he has a girlfriend and he was fairly good about that and we'd still hang out lots of the time. I still really like him. I don't think he's being a jerk/using me although my girlfriend from home who has never met him isn't so sure. He hasn't been as close recently but I still really like him. Advice for how to get him? Advice for action steps? What do I do next?
As far as me "making moves" on a guy who has a girlfriend is part of the reason I'm so conflicted. I wouldn't do anything for real for real unless they were no longer together. But at the same time she told him he could do whatever he wanted (as in, even have sex with other girls, etc.) so I feel like they terminated the relationship without actually ending it. I feel like how it is they'll most definately hook up over breaks when they get to see each other again. But unless they have something really special long distance relationships don't last forever, right? And first loves... I'm trying to be respectful of their relationship and her (because I don't want to be a ***** or slut or bf stealer) while still respecting my feelings for him and my desire to maybe have the relationship develop into something more. He's really something: guys like him don't come along all that often...