Can I get a piece of my ex's SSA when she's 62?

My ex has milked me for three years. In a few more, she'll be 62 and I'd like to get some of her SSA retirement. Is this possible? If so, what should I do? We both live in California.

Makingwishes2008-12-09T05:40:38Z

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Someone who has been married for a period of ten years may draw on their former spouse's social security benefits if the spouse or former spouse is deceased, if the spouse has a dependent child or the seeking spouse is disabled and the seeking spouse is has not married again. One simply needs to go to the social security benefits web site to determine what applies to their situation.

Good Luck.

wondermom2008-12-08T21:06:01Z

Here is how it works... you would have had to been married to her for 10 years and she must earn a higher SSA then you and it's is at the age she would have turned 65 not 62 then she would have to be dead at that time if you meet all the above qualifications then it would only be a percentage of what she would earn....

and you forfeit your own social security.......

Carey L2008-12-08T21:08:55Z

Be the bigger person and let this crap go. Do you know how much stress and hate you are carrying around, just by asking this? I understand you are angry, I get that. But wouldn't it be nice to just look at this and say you know what - I was the bigger, better person? Let go of the anger, resentment, and hate. Just move on, honestly...your happiness will be the best thing you can give her that will show her in the end, you win. Yes, I went through a divorce, my ex cheated on me...I am not ignorant to your pain. But... I let it all go.

Wiser12008-12-08T21:12:57Z

I don't think you can do that. First of all, you wouldn't be entitled to anything until she TAKES the SS. She can wait until she's 65-70 depending on her age. Secondly, spouses can't get the other's SS unless they are deceased, I believe. Then, you get a portion. If she has been getting support from you, her income is less than yours, so I doubt you will be able to collect a dime.

twinkles_mommy2008-12-08T21:35:22Z

To really answer this, get some help from a pro - paralegal, lawyer, or even look it up in divorce papers or legal library.
I'd be very leery of taking legal advice online - my father did for his divorce and it lasted a lot longer than it would have had he gone to a real pro.

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