I need a girl's point of view, is this typical behavior of a girl?????

It's kind of long but bare with me. Here we go, this is my story for the past 7 years or so. Before i start I can tell you that my friends have told me that I was just better in living her alone but I guess I just need to hear it from some else’ point of view, some one that isn’t my friend.

•We met 6 ½ years ago at our current workplace
•We started as friends and we started some what hanging out
•After like 5 months in our friendship I started looking at her in a romantic way but at the time she was in a relationship in which she was constantly fighting
•One day at work we kissed and really started flirting with each other
•She has always mentioned to me that I’m a really nice guy, that I would make a woman really happy one day
•Also said that I would be the guy she would marry and that she would remember me until the day she die
•She has told me numerous times that she loves me
•We have kissed numerous times
•She has told me that I’m too nice for her, that she isn’t ready for a relationship, that she doesn’t love me in that kind of way
•She has also said for me to wait for her
•She has asked me twice if I would move in with her
•She asked me once if I would go to Vegas to get marry
•I have been there for her when she’s been sick or had problems
•About 2 years ago she had a baby, and at one point she told me that I have been there more for the two of them than her baby daddy
•She has asked me to baby sit and I have done it, I guess she trusts me
•I wrote her a letter once telling her that I would give anything to raise her son like my own and that made her cry, and I still haven’t changed my mind
•One time she mentioned to a friend that she wished I was he baby’s father
•Sometimes we fight as we are together
•One time we were not talking and she came up to me and just kissed me, she said she couldn’t help it.
•If she hears a rumor about me and other girl she approaches me telling me that she doesn’t care but she would like to know what’s going on
•She has said that when she meets a guy she compares them to me
•When we stop talking she tells me she doesn’t care if we talk but then she tells her friends that it bothers her and we end up talking again
•One time she decided to take things slow with me and go on a date once a week, we did so but she cut me off after the second week to go back to her baby daddy
•She has asked me a few times to have sex with her but I have refused because of all the above, it would make things worst for me I guess
•One time she text me saying she was committing suicide, I left work to check upon her but she then said she was trying to see if anybody cared but I was the only one she text that to
•She recently told me that she would never be with me and that she doesn’t care if I talked to her
•We haven’t said a single word since about a month ago and as much as it hurts my pride to say it bothers the hell out of me

I’m not trying to make her look bad but this is very frustrating, despite all this I can say that she’s a wonderful mother, caring, loving, down to earth, driven, smart, pretty and goal oriented. Also at times I have been mean to her for the simple fact that she drives me insane by saying one thing and doing another. I’m not perfect, and I tend to make mistakes like any other human being. So what do you think ladies, is typical behavior?

oz2009-02-09T02:05:33Z

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dude, i hate to tell the bad news, but you are in friends zone, forget about friends zone, you became more like a brother, anyway, no matter what the case is she cares about you but not the way you want, she does not wanna hurt you, and definitely does not wanna loose your friendship and you kind of have couple of options. first, just be her friend, nothing more, nothing less, or you can just stop talking to her for good meaning draw a line between her and yourself, because since you are in friends zone, you will i guess be used a lot, or final option which is also the stupidest one is that just tell her you don't wanna risk your friendship with her but you sure do wanna see if it works out, and if if does great, if it doesn't no regrets, but my advice, take your friends advice.

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Kellie2009-02-09T02:06:21Z

Sounds like she has some emotional problems. Also sounds like she's been in more then one abusive situation. She has low self-esteem, she wants a nice guy who treats her good like you, but inside doesn't believe she deserves it from the sound so of it. So she pushes you away when you get to close, but she doesn't want to lose you because your her rock in a way so she'll fight to keep you at the same time.
Its her issues not to do with you. But if your afraid to ask her to make up her mind for fear she will choose to not go with you, and your letting this continue on because at least in that way you still have a part of her, your not giving yourself a chance to be really happy or have a healthy relationship.
Ask her to commit to a relationship with you or to end this sherade.

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yeventryuwilllose2009-02-09T02:08:24Z

ok dude, you are an incredibly nice guy, and have a great soul...and from what youve said here, you have been a great friend to this person even when they so clearly did not deserve your affection.... as far as this being typical behavior... that depends.... people dont typically threaten to kill themselves just to see who comes running..... the rest of it sounds like she likes you and your personality, but she is looking for the wrong things in other people... probbably one of those girls who loves having you around because the other guys she chooses to be attracted to are assholes....so she needs someone around to treat her goood....

your problem....first that you want to be with this girl. she is so obviously a basket case..she has no idea what is best for her and the only guy, you, who actually cared about her the right way, she is willing to lose....

your best bet is to move on with your life and stop pining over a girl who would be terrible for you.... maybe she will grow up in the meantime and see the error of her ways... but actions are alwasy more important than words, so all the stuff she said doesnt mean anything, its the contradictory ramblings of a person who has no idea what she wants or who she wants....she just wants to feed her need for attention and self esteem.....

you are a genuine guy for being there for her, but sometimes you have to do what is best for you when someone refuses to appreciate you.

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Anonymous2009-02-09T02:01:54Z

It sounds like her life is really out of whack and needs some time to get her imbalances in check. I don't think its typical behavior, because most of us NEVER think that suicide is the answer. I guess It's kind of a generalization because I can't speak for every girl, but from all the girls I've known.. her behavior looks like she might be trying to figure out whether she wants you or her ex, or something else in her life. You may want to talk with her, but if it won't be worth it to you, then it might be time to leave.

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