It may be to late now, but I would like some advice because I really dont have anyone to talk to right now. I dont exactly wanna pull my family or friends into this. Well I have been dating the same girl since high school. We have been together for 5 years and yesterday we kinda broke it off as a mutual agreement. The first year or two was great and then things just kept getting worse. Anymore we can just hardly stand each other. We are just way different, different interest, almost no sex life. We love each other, and we are best friends, but should I just let her go? We have broken up a few times, but we always end up together again. Is it in my best interest to just let her go this time?
Anonymous2009-02-21T20:33:34Z
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i think you should break up. move on. if youve been dating her for 5 years and it keeps getting worst after 2 years, why do you think it would get better after 3 years of getting worst?
btw; you probably arent gonna end up going to the same college and long distance relationships dont really work to well in my opinion.
5 years is a long time to just let it go. What my husband and I did before we got married was to see other people for 1 year and then we met back up and it was still love at first sight and married soon after and had our first child soon after as well. We got it out of our systems and now we never look at anyone else in a lusting way. Make sure you keep in contact every week so that you can keep comparing notes on how it is going. Do not give exact details or last names regarding who you are seeing. Always be protected and safe. If you let her go and rejoin each other after a set amount of time and still feel something then you owe it to each other to make it work. Do not be surprised if you two have grown apart though it happens.
Sometimes no matter how long people stay together they can always grow apart. It is better to have someone and love them as a friend than to be with someone in a relationship and hate their guts. Maybe you two just need a breather and take some time apart. And who knows maybe the time apart will let you two see if u do or don't really want eachother ...Good Luck!!
I was in a long term relationship and we grew apart as well. After that relationship was over I realized something: There are way too many people in this world to settle for a relationship if you in any way think that it might not be absolutely perfect for you. Yes, you love her. But if you are different people now then you once were, then I think it is time to move on. It will be extremely difficult but trust me, you will meet someone else that will make you much happier. Good luck!
I think you just like her like a sister or a really good friend. And the multiple break up/ get back together thing leads to a very unsteady and rocky relationship. I know it's hard to let go of something that is all you've know for 5 years...but i think it's time.