This section seems to be populated entirely by 13-year-old girls, so I'm going to ask an adult question, let them see the kind of stuff grown-ups deal with here:
After the death of a child, when parents disagree about having more kids (assuming that there is no genetic component that would preclude attempting to have more kids), how can someone convince a reluctant spouse to try again?
Brolley
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Well, I would say that the reluctant spouse should be more open to the suggestion.
They should be reminded of the joys the could have with having another child, even though on the first try it did not work too well.
And be reminded the chances of the new baby passing away once again (Which is very unlikely according to studies from the NUH [Norwich University Hospital] )
But the parent who wants to try for another child should also respect their spouse's decision, and wait until the right time comes.
Eventually as time passes and they have thought about the situation, they should begin to try for another.
dreamee
So are you saying if the first born is the only child? Well if that child was the only child and they agreed not to have any more after that child died then all I can say is they may have to divorce. If one parent decide that they want another child that's all they can do. It's hard to convince someone to do something that they don't really want to do.
<Raised on Promises>
Sometimes you can't.
This has been the cause of divorce for two couples that I know. In some cases it's just too hard to deal with the what if's of "trying again".
I guess the best advice would just be to give that spouse time.
Anonymous
I don't know that I would (convince a spouse) if they don't have the desire of their own accord.
After all, if they are not happy about it once the child is HERE, the child will pay the price of the bad decision.
Anonymous
Two people will heal and be ready to try again, on different time schedules.
If you feel like your child bearing years will be over before your partner will be ready, you may have to divorce and try again, or decide it's ok to not have children. Hard choice.