why do i feel like this and what can i do to change it?
i have been with my husband going on 10 years and i dont feel sexually attracted to him anymore i hate going in to have sex i have tried to picture other people, back when we first met anything but it is not working anymore and i find that i have to finnish by myself i hate having to do this i want to feel the way i use to for my husband and i want to have great sex what can i do to bring that spark back please what can i do ? have you gone throught this ? what did you do ?
Ray M2009-06-10T12:04:43Z
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Be honest with him but not brutally honest that you would hurt his feelings, say you need professional help and if he can come with you and consult a sex therapist and support you... you get the hint. best of luck
I think the sexual attraction goes along with your intimacy. If you guys have been stuck in a marrital rut, and are doing the same things day in and day out, you end up neglecting each other. You need time to connect. Go on dates, go out to the bar and flirt under the table. Maybe let him know some things he could do that turns you on? Subtly of course, like tell him.. "I love it when you....." And do the same for him. You'll find that if you do things for him too that makes him feel great or happy, you also feel happy and great, AND sexy for doing those things :) But ya, go do different things together, if you have kids, get a sitter at least once every 2 weeks, try weekly, and go do stuff just you two! and DONT AVOID THE BEDROOM! you only make it better by trying! And YES porn is fun to watch too sometimes!
Girl it is time to spice things up with lingerie and some toys if need be.Put some candles in the room,put some lingrie on throw some rose petals on the bed and go at it girl.I have been through the same situation and we just changed some things up a bit and we conyinue to do different things in bedroom.Just use your imagination.Go to a bed and breakfast or just do something out of the ordinary.GOOD LUCK!!!!
Most of us get in a little rut sometimes but what your talking about sounds more serious What else is going on ? something had to have really changed for you to feel this strongly. Some times staying in love means reminding yourself again and again why it is you love the person.Concentrate on the positive things .the things you loved him for in the first place.. counseling can help
Sounds like your in a sexual rut!Time for you and your hubby to take a romantic get away and spice up the bedroom activity alittle! Maybe some sexy nighties and lotions,taking a bath together,take a 2nd honeymoon you both have to work at keeping the romance and the sex alive!!