I am a 20 year straight male with a full time job who might possibly be sharing an apartment with a girl who is a full time college student. We're pretty good friends and she is moving out of another apartment. What are your thoughts on this? Do you think this will work out?
Inundated in SF
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If you both are considerate of each other then it should be no different then living with a guy. You respect each other's privacy, you both put in for the things you both use in common, you both do the cleaning and tidying up, you don't eat each other's food without permission. Etc. If either of you begins to see a problem developing, talking calmly with each other about it before the other starts harboring resentments is best--find a reasonable solution both of you can live with before it goes on too long--usually the offender isn't even aware that he/she is being offensive and the longer you let it go on, the more aggravating it is for both of you. Set down some rules--if one of you has a lover in for the night, how will you handle that and what ground rules do both of you (and your guests) have to observe. Etc.
Jr
If you are not attracted to eachother it could work. You have to talk about everything first. Cleaning, food, cable bill, sleepovers, bathroom stuff, quiet or noisy, parties. I would also advise that you find out how she plans on paying for her share. If she is a fulltime college student, are her parents paying for her share of the apartment, or is she? If it's her parents, they may not like the situation. Make sure you discuss what should happen if it doesn't work out. I think both of you should be on the lease.
Laurie
If you respect each other boundaries all should be fine. Talk it over before she moves in on sharing responsibilities such as cleaning the apartment and guests and time limits on guests. no drugs, etc. Keep it platonic and you should have a good roommate.
Anonymous
It could work out. i have a good (male) friend who is roommates with a girl. just make sure you guys get along and if you need to establish boundaries, do so now!