Aparents/foster families/anyone who have experienced adoption from any angle with the CAS?
I understand that the CAS's foster to adopt programs might be quite different than PAparents who aren't going through that program. That said, I could use a bit of help from anyone who has insight. I can't get a straight answer from the CAS on some questions I had involving my adoption and things that happened otherwise. My adoption was shady to start with, I was placed long before my first mom actually relinquished me, and my parents certainly weren't foster parents. Other things happened with/after my abro's adoption that has caused me to wonder for years. My abro and I were both adopted in closed adoption.
Is it normal in closed adoption circumstances when the AP aren't foster parents to meet the child at the foster parents' home? My AP met me at the CAS building in the visitation room. They met my abro at the foster family's home.
Later on down the road, when I was around 7 and my abro 4, the social worker who handled our cases came to "check up". This was many years after I was adopted, and a solid 2 and a bit years since my brother's adoption. Does this happen routinely with adoptions through the CAS?
Also, the social worker pushed the foster family's involvement with my brother on my aparents, also a good solid few years after his adoption had been completed. The worker made it clear to my AP that the foster family had wanted to adopt my abro themselves, but were turned down due to already having too many children in their care. I remember them visiting, and sending him cards and gifts, and my amom always being very uncomfortable and upset about it, and she's mentioned more than once that she didn't feel she had much of a choice in allowing the foster family access to my bro. Is foster family involvement normal in a closed adoption?
Thank you to anyone who can offer me insight!
yes, Ontario Canada