My boyfriend is jealous and insecure and it might be ruining our relationship?
Sometimes he will snoop through my phone to see who I've been calling or texting. Which is fine with me, I guess. I mean, I have nothing to hide, but it bothers me that he is just so insecure with himself and not trusting of me that he feels the need to do that.
So then after he looks through my phone, he doesn't say anything to me until a few days afterward, when it has had time to fester in his mind that because I texted "Will", that I might also be cheating on him with "Will". And he will have these bad dreams, these awful dreams that I am cheating on him. And after he wakes up, he will be angry towards me for something that he dreamed and never actually happened. Its like he's manifesting these thoughts in his dreams.
And after that is all said and done, he will ask me if everything is alright. Are we doing OK? And lastly, "who is 'Will'? ("Will is a co-worker and friend, nothing else.)
It is very irritating.
I do not think he will cheat on me. I never have. He is the one who always thinks that I am going to cheat, or that I have because I am "just so beautiful". :-/
I have never had a bad dream about him cheating on me. In fact, he is rarely in my dreams, but when he is, its nothing bad.
How do I get my boyfriend of four years to trust me and understand that I am committed 100%, and that if he doesn't get control of himself and his insecurities, this relationship is going to fall to pieces??
help...
He doesn't have his own cell phone. He just sold his car. He doesn't go anywhere! He's a homebody! So, its very unlikely he's cheating on me. He has been cheated on and he is VERY insecure. I just try to reassure him that nothing is going on with me, but he just doesn't get it, i guess.