Is it mean not to invite someone to an event because you know you will have to entertain them?
I have a friend that is not as confident and sociable as me....but I love her company and she is a great friend of mine. Whenever I have a party/go out/etc, and she is there, I have to entertain her or else she just sits on the side like a bump on a log. I am having a huge July 4th party that she does not know about yet but there is a small chance she may find out about it. Would it be totally mean not to invite her because I wont have time to entertain her? Has anyone been in the same situation?
Anonymous2009-07-01T09:50:07Z
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You don't HAVE to entertain her. Invite her, and if she sits on the side like a bump on a log then that's her choice. - You shouldn't feel the need to entertain her just because she's not having fun, it's very nice of you to do that, but if the party is going to be so big that you won't have time then just invite her -it's her choice to be unsociable.
Yes, it is mean not to invite her if you consider her as a friend. Megan is right, your friend is not confident and not inviting her will only make her feel worse. Especially after she finds out about it. It can even probably create a little problem with you guys. Invite her and if she feels like being stuck on the corner like a bump on a log, that's her problem, at least she'll know you didn't leave her out of the event. I hate the fact that sometimes when I invite people to house parties etc. I have to entertain some of them. I mean of course you have to divide your attention to many people & make sure everyone is comfortable, otherwise your party will crash or called (boring). When your friend arrive, introduce her to some of your other friends etc. that she can conversate with, so you don't have to sit there and entertain her, and make her feel like she got dumped at the same time.
That would be VERY mean! Your friend is shy and not confident, so not inviting her would make her feel worse! Just invite her and entertain her because that's what friends do.