Ok, so my little 7 year old sister, Danielle, is usually a happy, energetic, talkative little girl. But for about a week now, she has been very quiet, not wanting to do anything, looking sad all day, and not eating good at all (she will take like two bites of her food and then be like, "Mommy, I'm not hungry.") I have a feeling that somewhere deep inside, she is really sad or upset about something. But she says nothing is wrong. We (my family) have all asked her if there was something wrong. She says there is nothing wrong, but I think there is. What can I do? It's really making me worried, and Danielle won't tell anyone what is wrong.
For those of you who pray, even if you don't have any advice about what I can do, can you please pray for my little sister? Thanks
PS: I know this is an odd category for this question, but I am trying to post it anywhere I can.
Blessed by the Lord2009-07-23T22:40:45Z
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May the Lord keep you and your sister safe and happy. Just wait a few days and she will be better.
If a child is abused sexually, they are told if they tell anyone, the perpetrator will kill their mother, father, sister, ~ someone the child cannot live without.
Other abusers tell them they asked for it. They invited it by wearing a pink top or sitting on somebody's knee. They put it on the child who holds the top of the world on their shoulders.
And then they end the conversation saying that no one will believe a child over an adult. You're dirty. No one is going to love you. You're a liar. They won't believe you.
I do pray for you. I asked my daughter over and over. She said that what happened to you mommy, didn't happen to me. Two years has passed, a custody battle concluded she could choose her home, she refuses to see her dad/stepmom and return to their church, so I suspected it, but she said otherwise at age 10.
She's going to be 13 in September and I was called into the counsellors office at the end of a visit and it was disclosed that she had been in the church by close family friend of her dads.
When I was abused, I complained about tummy aches. I got skiddish. I didn't want to be touched or feel someone breath on my neck. I got headaches.
I really hope your sister is okay, but this should give you some investigative tools to put feelers out there when you talk to her. You can start with a safe conversation, about "Hey, you know that where ever your bathing suit covers you is your space?
That means no adult or *child/teenager should ever have any reason to touch you here and point to a spot or here and point to another spot." She may ask you questions and listen to what she's asking. If her face starts turning beet red and blotchy, be prepared.
"If anyone ever touches you in your bathing suit area, do not believe the lies because this person will try to scare you not to tell anyone. They'll say they will hurt mommy or no one will believe you or mommy won't love you. These are lies....Mommy's would never not love you even when you misbehave. You can always come to me. I will believe you. I will be your safe person. We can tell mom together. We will all be safe."
Also explain to her, that these people are so scared of adults, they hurt children. They are so scared, they know they can scare you into keeping a secret. You should never have any secrets between you and mommy. This is a bad secret AND IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT.
I really hope it's something really minor that is blown out of proportion, but if it's not, you should have enough information to work with.
she is going through depression at a very young age. or She feels that she is missing something important in her life which is God. go to a christian church maybe non denomination. Go there and who knows maybe God is using your young sister to reveal something precious.
Please have faith and try your best to not leave her alone. Who wants to be alone? unless she asks for space.
God bless
pray with her..... even though you don't believe in God. Pray. then you should have a better understanding on Who God is.
I will pray for her. I think taking her to a doctor may be your best course of action, she may actually not be hungry and then it would be a medical condition. If something traumatic happened that you all don't know about a third party may be able to discover it.
Try talking to her casually about everyday things, without asking her what's wrong. If you let her feel more comfortable talking with you or other members of your family, she will be more willing to open up to you later.