1 year into the marriage, I found sexual emails sent from my husband to another man.. I saved those emails (Didn't leave because I was 7 months pregnant... just didn't know what to do)
8 months later (2 days ago) I found another email, very flirtatious to a different male
I believe this is fraud. Would we be able to get an annulment?
2009-08-23T22:57:37Z
fraud, in a sense he never told me about his sexuality. never knew he was into guys. never knew he messed around with guys until after i married him.. if i would have KNOWN i wouldn't have married him.
gay and lesbians, more power to you. i don't judge. but i thought i married a straight man. i want a straight man.
2009-08-23T23:04:27Z
i wish i had our daughter out of wedlock! i'm so heartbroken, thinking i can't get this dumb marriage annulled
2009-08-23T23:21:21Z
I had the baby.. she's almost 7 months old now... I was pregnant when i found the FIRST set of emails
2009-08-23T23:53:50Z
i never said HE was gay... obviously Bi... but i don't want a bi-sexual husband! divorce is obvious, but i was HOPING for an annulment
Toodeemo2009-08-23T23:07:52Z
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One of the most important things considered in an annulment is the consummation of the marriage. Since you are seven months pregnant, there is no issue there. The letters really do not prove anything, other than he likes to flirt with men on the internet or in letters. You need much more to raise a fraud issue. Though fraud is probably the best chance you have, I dont think you would be able to prove it. The court would consider the effect on the child as well. And if your marriage is annuled, your child efectively is born out of wedlock. That is simply not going to happen.
The (Teddy Roosevelt) Republican2009-08-23T23:07:25Z
This wouldn't be considered fraud. Fraud is when the consent to be married isn't real. In other words, you would have to prove that your husband did not really intend to marry you.
Sexual e-mails to another party wouldn't provide grounds for annulment. You should just file for a divorce from your husband if you think you have irreconcilable differences.
EDIT: Toodeemo, family court doesn't consider "consummation of marriage" as a ground for annulment. That's a Catholic church ground for annulment. One of the legal grounds is impotence, but that is a defined a bit different than consummation of marriage.
At any rate, I don't see how you would be able to file for an annulment since what you described is not fraud. It's pretty sick, but not fraudulent. You might want to consider talking to a family law attorney in your area and getting a divorce. Oh, and another thing to consider: you are pregnant with his child. You probably will not be able to get an annulment because of this. Annulments wipe the slate clean, as though you were never married in the first place. You can't do that when children are involved.
One more thing to consider since I keep coming back to this post lol: annulments are extremely expensive, and you have to have some pretty solid evidence that proves your grounds. You HAVE to declare grounds in an annulment case, with a divorce (which is 10x less expensive) in most states, you don't need grounds for divorce. Irreconcilable differences will do.
Okay, I saw the 7 months pregnant thing and ran with it. You wouldn't be able to get an annulment if you have a child.
Who says he's gay? Bisexuals are allowed to marry a person of the opposite sex in all 50 states and are under no legal obligation to reveal their sexual orientation. This marriage has been consummated, there is no evidence that he committed adultery, you have had a child together, and you have been married 1 year and 8 months. I see no fraud since he didn't make any false claims. You're more than welcome to file for a divorce, but I don't see any grounds for an annulment.
Where is the fraud? It sounds like adultery, which is a grounds for divorce, not for annulment. The answer to your question depends on the laws of your state, and the only real answer to your question will require you to consult a local family attorney.
You probably could get an annulment because he did not disclose his sexuality to you before you were married. You can go to document-do-it-yourself-service.com and see if you qualify. If you cannot get one then try to get an uncontested divorce. Have you talked to your husband about these emails? Does he know that you know? Either way he is doing wrong by you and it may be best to walk out of this marriage since you do not want a bi-sexual husband.