I've seen enough stories of creative writing/story telling on behalf of the SW/agencies handling adoption, that I just have to wonder why?
What do they have to gain by lying about, or omitting information?
What purpose does it serve?
And if there aren't consequences in place to deal with SW/agency workers/lawyers/etc that do engage in this kind of behavior, should there be? IF so, what do you think the consequences should be?
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I think they do it so the adoptees will have a more difficult time searching for their families.
In a lot of cases, especially in IA, I think children were left at orphanages by parents who were trying to take care of their business in order to parent. The officials working at the orphanages doctored the information of these children and adopted them out to make a few bucks and lied to the natural families when they came looking for their children.
The lies just allow the corruption to happen. Or they are caused by the corruption. Either way it has to stop!
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I think most of the time, they do it to make the baby even more "special" for the ap's..I mean, come....everyone wants a musical Orphan, lol.
In cases where they say the mother was a drug addict (which happens all the time, and there is NO evidence of drug use) - then, I think it only serves as a way to make the ap's seem more superior.
Maybe they do it as a way to ensure adoptees will have a harder time when they go to search?
I wish there was a way to make them accountable for all the lies they tell....but when an industry is based on lies, corruption and money for the sale of humans, what do you expect?
Ferbs
FYI: Spotty-Dotty's spewing hatred again. Pay no mind.
In a Social Worker's case...it is probably the same as any other individual's bias or tendency for or against the parent whose rights are being questionned.
It is incredibly scary when the state or province sponsored advocate pursues an agenda that does not best represent the child's interest or is based on personal opinions towards the parents. Very scary.
So for that purpose...it serves their personal agenda or sense of "what is right". Just think of Meryl Streep's character in "Doubt"...whether or not she was right...she pursued her cause without taking in the facts.
There is no excuse for lying and in my view...this is the exception, not the rule.
Unfortunately...how much credibility does a parent with "questional parenting skills" (term being used as perhaps seen by SW) have against the SYSTEM? I mean...they are being judged as it is...discounted...patronized. It's like proving innocence after being found guilty isn't it?
And reporting it...well...the only hope I see in these cases is to have an legal advocate or an advocate with a non-for profit agency that helps and supports these parents. Otherwise...they have to go at it alone.
The consequences should be immediate suspension WITHOUT pay (can be reinstated if found not guilty)...an investigation by an ombudsman or third party...and possible dismissal.
As I said...I believe they usually do right by the child...but like the nurses, agencies, lawyers etc...who take advantage of the system to rip away children or cause misery to parents...they are prone to human faults.
But the children should not pay.
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I agree Spotty-D is spewing crap and hasn't got a clue.
Lies are told to make sure adoptions go through. I'm not saying lies are told all the time but on the other hand it's not that uncommon.
cricketlady
We weren't told any lies about their background. Everything we were told was true--they still hadn't changed.