My fiance is seriously considering the military at the moment. Actually right now as I type this, he's at a Navy recruiting office. What is it like being in love with a guy who's going into the military? What are the pros and cons? I love him so much and I just want to know what I'm going to have to deal with and what it's going to be like for me when/if he is deployed.
2010-02-18T10:43:41Z
I'm fully aware that there's a possibility of our relationship ending, but I don't believe it will. I'm not going into detail about our relationship depth, because honestly that's no ones business but ours. I asked "What is it like being in love with a guy who's going into the military? What are the pros and cons?" That's all I want to know.
2010-02-18T10:57:21Z
Also, I'm not going to love him any different. I'm not questioning the fact of whether I'll still love him or not. I just want to know what it's going to be like for me.
2010-02-18T12:23:06Z
Correction, he was at an Air Force Recruiting Office, not a Navy one.
LStone2010-02-18T10:57:30Z
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Pros- Pride in what your husband does Getting to see him in his uniforms =) The opportunities to meet a variety of different people (good & bad!) and of course the benefits like insurance and all that..
Cons- Having to be second to the military, his obligation is to the military first & you'll need to accept that. Deployments
WHEN he deploys it is going to be hard, but find comfort in knowing it could be much worse. You will have to handle most things on your own, with very little/or no help from your spouse. Don't be surprised when he has to be gone for holidays, birthdays, and anniversaries. Like I said, his duty to the military trumps all..just the way it is! You will get lonely, so find a hobby, take classes, or get a job. DON'T CHEAT! It's the weak women who cheat on their husbands that give us a bad name.
Oh, just a heads up, don't let the recruiter tell you guys he won't be deployed to Iraq/Afghanistan that they leave all the land stuff to the Marines & Army =) It's a lie!
My Husband is in the Army has been for 5 years. We were dating back when he joined. It was very hard for me to see him go. But if you see yourself being with him then it doesn't matter what job he has. He will likely get deployed but for my Husband and I, it has only made our relationship stronger. Military is a tough life when they aren't around but the good parts are the health care and the pay is really not to shabby for someone that didn't have any college. He will have the majority of holidays off (unless he has to pull duty) countless 4 day weekends..Any time the banks are closed he will have a 4 day. The experience would be easier if you were married as you could go where he goes and he would have better pay. Not to say you should run out and do that. The ONLY con that I have for the military right now is the deployments. That is IT! They suck, they feel like an eternity, and you are alone. But the way I see it is that I would rather miss him than have anyone else. I have been threw a 1 year deployment and had our son 2 months into it. It was a very tough time in my life. But now today 2 years later my Husband is leaving again and I am not scared like the first time. We can pick up our lives again when he is back in 12 months. You can do it if you want to. But if you don't see it being the life you want then you should let him know like now! Don't lead him on I see that WAY TOO MUCH around here.
I'm in the same boat as you. My husband is taking the steps to go into the Navy. I am scared for him, and of the unknown, but i have so much pride for him.
Don't listen to the ones who will say your relationship will end. I have 2 sisters whose husbands are in the military. One is married to a Air Force guy, and they have been married for around 10 years, and the other sister is married to a Marines guy, and they have been married for around 7 years. Not to say it's gonna be easy cause some days it won't. My sisters have told me that.
If you a strong person, and you really love this guy, then you will be able to withstand anything that life throws at you.
Well you say he's there right now so that means he wont be leaving to even go to training for about 6 or 7 months...because first he has to take the asvab do a meps physical swear in and then wait around for a job..So like I said baout 6 or 7 months..so why dont u wait until he swears in to worry about it..My bf is in the army and its nothing different its just like a normal long distance relationship..but he's already been told he might starting training to go to afganistan in 6 months..My dad did 3 tours so I know how to handle it...just remember he's doing something great..plus now with cellphones skype and myspace you can stay more in touch than ever.
Also you dont get ANY benefits being a gf or fiance ya'll have to be married..and the bright side about that is u get to live with him on base..so if i were u i'd speed up the whole marriage thing since yur already engaged