My dad always joked around with his friends (and they are from the late 70's early 70's about thins like "theyd swim through a river of snot for a friend. I can barely get my friends to even swim through a fresh water lake for me. What happened? It just seems to me like friends arent friends anymore. To the point where i would just rather be a hermit.
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I think/hope i get what you mean. I feel like people aren't honestly friends anymore. It feels like it is more for show than any meaningful friendship that you get these days.
I sort of feel as though people live more for themselves only and don't really consider relationships with other people as all that important and it's like technology and science is all contributing to that because are encouraged to be more anti-social with things like phones and ipods.
Seriously, even phones, which are intended for communication with other human beings can interfere with friendship. I will be hanging out with some 'friend' and she will continuously look at her phone and text other people while with me, and it makes me feel insignificant when that happens.
I have a few people i consider my friends, but often i feel like they're not very loyal, and they don't EVER show any signs of caring about me. It's so disappointing because when i consider someone a friend i dedicate myself to being a good friend which for me means the following:
-you can trust them, they won't reveal secrets about you
-they are genuinely interested in you and your life (i haven't had a friend ask about how im doing for years now, even though i let people tell me their life stories, and when i pluck up the courage to confide in them they do not show any indication of listening or giving a damn)
-they are loyal and will defend you/stand up for you
It's disappointing because i've grown up watching all these shows that depict friendship as an important and normal part of life, and i feel like i'm missing out because either real friendship doesn't exist anymore, or i just haven't found it yet.
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I don't think so. It's just that we live on different period with our parents. Things change but friendship remains. And one more thing, be a good friend first before you ask for one.