Ex girlfriend setting me up with friend again help?

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Now as I"ve posted before, this ex girlfriend whom I've tried time and again to get out of my head, has come from out of nowhere and once again is trying to set me up with her friend. Now she has tried this before, two years ago before me and my ex eventually started dating, leading to my downfall afterwards. Back then I told her I wasnt interested in her friend because I was more interested in her (My ex). 

Since our fallout, we had tried to re establish our friendship, but I decided to cut her off from my circle, due to emotional stress. After a while my ex got herself a new man, had bought a house with him, and is ready to move in together. Yet I still thought of her, foolishly. Fast forward to months now, and she finds a way to communicate with me, and tells me that same friend of hers from that time two years back, wants to get to know me and possibly hook up.

Its been two years since our initial break up, but like i said before, I still thought of her, couldnt let her go despite my desicion to cut her loose as her friend. Now she pops back up again and wants me to meet her friend, again. Her friend had sent me a friend request on facebook, and I accepted. She is in my opinion, far more attractive than my ex I got to say. But I'm not sure if she knows anything about me and my ex gf's past relationship.  Should I give this new friend a chance, and risk possibly seeing my ex from time to time? Should I also try yet again to re-establish my friendship with my ex, risking possible emotional stress, in the event me and her friend do get together? 

As I've said, its been two years, Letting go of my ex has been hard and emotional, especially since she's moved on for the best. Now it seems she wants to help me out by bringing her friend and me together. Honestly, I am scared, but also optimistic about a new opportunity. What advice should I take? Should I try her friend out, or should I move along? I need serious answers only. Thank You

packard1963 · Accepted Answer

What in the hell are you thinking man. Are you whipped by your ex, must be.
The reason I'm trying to be so cruel is to show you the kind of person your dealing with your ex.
If the only way of her contacting you is facebook, block her! If by phone its time to get a unlisted phone number & keep her out of your life. Its like one foot forward and two back each time your ex gets into your life so forget her here friend.

You can thank yourself as soon as you made the right call in finding out all your ex wants to do is control your life and after all these years she's still wanting to do it.

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irvin · Answer

You have to keep leaving her alone. If there's ANY hope for this relationship right now, it's only going to occur if you stop trying to cling to her and trap her. Read here https://tr.im/q3oea 

If she sees you as a stalker, she feels that she cannot escape you. It's absolutely IMPOSSIBLE for her to value you and respect you when this is the case. There's a good chance it's too late already, but if there's even the smallest flicker of hope in her heart for you - you absolutely must stop sabatoging yourself like this! 

You need to drop off the map. Stop doing whatever you're doing. Stop trying to contact her. Yes, she will leave you alone too. Even if she does end up coming back to you, it will likely take the better part of a year before that happens. The reason for this is because she needs to develop a different opinion of you. She needs time to see that you're not the creepy, verbally abusive stalker that she had you pegged as. If she still cares, she will get in touch with you then. At that point, you may have gotten over her yourself. But either way, you need to stop trying to make something happen with your ex. This is something that you simply cannot control. Stop behaving out of desperation and let go.

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Your life is really complicated. 
Here's my opinion. I think that you should avoid going out with the friend because you don't want to be circulating around your ex girlfriends "friend network" you have to get out and try to find other girls or you will just end up looking for people that are similar to your ex. Please try to mingle around downtown online and be welcoming to all types of girls. And try to  find someone who is less dramatic so you can settle down and for your own sake never ever have to post desperate questions on yahoo again.
GOOD LUCK!

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After breakup I was devastated. When I realized that we were truly over with no hope of ever getting back together I cried and cried. But we got married and we are now big family with a beautiful baby girl https://tr.im/NIb9u

Ex girlfriend setting me up with friend again help?

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