What is Love vs in love?

What is the difference between loving someone and being in love with someone?

michal2010-10-06T09:25:13Z

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You can love someone and care about them so much, that you dont want to see them hurt and you want to be with them. But if your in love, thats the person you want to be with and you cant see yourself with anyone else at all. Theres no room for loving anyone else. Most importantly, when you know you know.

?2016-06-03T01:55:54Z

I'm assuming the question is in reference to a boyfriend / girlfriend, and not a family member or general friend. When somebody says, "I love you, but I'm not In-Love with you.", then be very aware such person is extremely confused. It is not possible to love, but not be in-love, because falling in love comes before actually loving the person. So when you hear such cheap statements, then it's your first clue the person doesn't know what true love is because he/she has never experienced it yet. You might also consider moving on and looking for someone else, because you're probably wasting your time with that person. 1st gear - There are different torques (strengths) of love in a relationship, but "falling in love" is only 1st gear, because it is the initial infatuation seed being planted in the relationship. How it grows from there is up to the couple. This is also where intimate affection may occur and Oxytocin is being released into the brain. You really can't get anywhere at all without Oxytocin (look it up, it is essential in pair bonding and romance). 2nd gear is care. You care deeply about the person and would do anything for the person. 3rd gear is sacrifice. You're willing to make sacrifices for the person, and to keep the person in your heart. 4th gear is commitment. You're willing to make serious promises that the person will always be your one-and-only center of your universe. 5th gear is marriage. You would rather die than not be with the person forever. 6th gear is maximum true love. This is where you have sworn your soul to love the person even beyond death. If the person dies before you do, then you will never seek another. Hope that helps

oss5futuretrunks2010-10-06T09:18:52Z

Loving someone is when you love your Mum or Dad. Or when you were IN love with someone and fell out of love with them. That love will never go away. When you are IN love with someone, you love that person and no one else because you cannot be IN love with two people at the same time. It is just not possible.

Ashley0102010-10-06T09:20:15Z

you can love a friend,dog, parents, food, etc. But being in love is a special wonderful and also horrible feeling, when u lose it. Being in love only occurs with one person at a time and is with some you see as a significant other.I believe the difference is whether or not you are fully committed to the person and want no one else.

Tony2010-10-06T09:19:56Z

Girls have a strange way of twisting these words.

the "love" you speak of is more like a brotherly love. Like the way you care about your friends and family. "in love" refers to the actual state of loving someone. The way you would love your partner.

If you aren't "in love" with someone than you don't see them as your partner, you see them as a friend or someone close to you.

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